Ladies, are your Relationship decisions being made by using the “The triangle offense” or the “3M’s”? Meaning…”Manless friends”, your “Mama”, or the “Media?” Are you taking relationship advice from the 3M’s? An in-depth look at why so many BLACK WOMEN are single? Are black men ( like many other male ethnic groups ) just wising up about marriage, by opting out of it, simply because the risk to reward ratio is too high? with guests Bobby Glanton-Smith, Mark Goulston, and Geoff Brown. Download: MediaFire or HulkShare
Ladies, are your Relationship decisions being made by using the “The triangle offense” or the “3M’s”? Meaning…”Manless friends”, your “Mama”, or the “Media?” Are you taking relationship advice from the 3M’s? An in-depth look at why so many BLACK WOMEN are single? Are black men ( like many other male ethnic groups ) just wising up about marriage, by opting out of it, simply because the risk to reward ratio is too high? with guests Corey Holcomb, Luenell, Hope Flood, Bobby Glanton-Smith, Mark Goulston. Download: MediaFire or HulkShare
Amazing, inspiring, fun, friend making, friend supporting, contact making uplifting empowering trip. Lots of love, laughter, people full of life.
Welcome to L.A.
First time flying since 9-11.
My flight to L.A. was so early, my flight left 20 minutes before the baggage check in staff were to open.
With it being an early flight and the airport two hours away, I took Mom’s suggestion and found a hotel that allowed me to leave my car at the hotel and shuttle me to and from the airport.
TSA experience: Actually pretty decent: Thanks to several people I know, who do fly, and who gave great advice. It also made it easier to have a carry-on only. No wait for bags at baggage claim. Overall, flight to and from were fine. TSA wait time both ways were approx 10 minutes. As far as flying, I have always been fine with the actual flying, Overall flying experience, since I had not flown since before 9-11 and TSA, it was fine.
Lesson from Flying and TSA:
My fears and preconceived ideas on TSA were unfounded. Yes, at certain times, the line can be long, however, agree or disagree that TSA should be in operation or the current rules in place, they are here. And once we accept that and most people know, and follow the rules, going thru TSA is one more step in the process to flying.
Staying with friends vs. staying at the hotel.
Traffic in L.A. is crazy. Driving from the hotel to Billionaire’s office would have been a logistical nightmare and waste of time to reconnect every day. Billionaire was kind to offer a free place to stay. Benefits: Money saver, allows for more time to be spent with connect with more people.
Great friends are a blessing and add to your wealth and I am definitely blessed and wealthy. I was able to meet many wonderful people in person, spend time with and get to know. To all the people I met and spent time with in L.A., I thank your love and kindness.
Meeting my cousin: 6 years and a trip to L.A.: It was a true blessing to meet with McKenzie again. She is a sweet lady and her energy warms the room. My true blessing and gratitude was introducing McKenzie and Billionaire. Both are doing incredible work to help kids. Check out Playworks.org. I believe they can and will work together in the future.
Time moves quickly. Appreciate family; reach out to them, whether they respond often or not. Let them know someone cares for them. Send them a note of inspiration and saying you care. Have no expectation of contact in return. As we walk thru life and meet people, let us connect people who we believe may be able to uplift and support one another.
Birthday Party / Launch Party:
Billionaire P.A. is amazing. It was his birthday party and a party to launch his newest short film / music video. It was way more than your typical birthday party. He hosted a “Wealthy Wednesday’ event which is very inspirational and supportive. “Wealthy Wednesday” events are where you tell what you’re doing to execute your dream. It also is a great way to connect with people who can and will support you and whom you can support. There were speakers and singers. There was a 16 yo DJ who also was given the spotlight to sing (which was being a singer is one. And sing he did. Look for more from PJ on the future.
One of the best features: after speaking your dream, Billionaire asks what you need to help you live your dream. Then, asks everyone in attendance, if there is anyone with those skill sets. It is up to you to connect with those people.
I told my story of how Billionaire and I met, how I came to support him, speak my dream, and how I am executing my dream. Standing in front of a group of people and speaking is outside my comfort zone. We only grow outside out comfort zone.
“With God at my back and Billionaire and Wealthy Minds at my front, I can only stand upright and move forward.” Robert Overstreet
The energy is incredible, powerful, uplifting, full of love. It used to be difficult for me to walk up to people, introduce myself and start a conversation. Thanks to Billionaire’s Wealthy Minds events, they have given me the courage to introduce myself and improve my networking skills.
Driving around L.A. with Billionaire preparing for the party gave me a great appreciation for all the hard work that takes place behind the scenes. He was kind to tell me every time we were in another town in L.A. Actually, I stayed confused to the exact location all day. I did periodically use the GPS on my phone to give me an idea. It was a lot of work, yet, it was fun hanging out with him. He had fun driving thru as many different towns as possible so that I can say I was in every town around L.A.
Things that make you go hmmm… While running around L.A. with billionaire gathering cakes, supplies, and organizing people for the party, something happened that made me stop and catch my breath.
One of the many addresses we stopped was “1942”.
Later in the evening, we stopped by the music studio, where he found the other DJ to work his party. While there, we met a young couple who were recently married. Their wedding date: “August 8th”.
Mr. Zo Williams is genuine, a good man with a beautiful heart and soul. Also, I am honored to have met Bobby Glanton-Smith, Hassan-Karim McCullough (founder of OUI Juice), and Chris Purnell. I listened / watched “The Zo What? Morning Show” live from the green room. I have great respect for all that Zo and his crew are doing to improve humanity. They take on all types of topics and go where many are afraid to go. I had a good time meeting Zo and the crew at the studio and see where the show is recorded.
Lesson: Reaffirms why I support Zo and his mission.
Friendships / Relationships:
Billionaire P.A. and I connected thru his passion and company he created “Wealthy Minds”. I have an extreme amount of love and respect for Billionaire for living his dream of motivating and inspiring all people to live their dream and to teach them the power of a wealthy mind. There have been many who have left the life of negativity, many keep on walking, it is the exception who are reaching back and helping the rest of us. Billionaire is exceptional!! I am proud to call him friend and brother.
Life is fun walking around town with Billionaire. Our friendship is confusing to many (being of different races and our age difference). I like to believe that although people are shocked, people are inspired. When we live with an open heart and open mind, we will be a amazed and blessed at the people with whom we connect.
We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Once we get past the outside and connect with people for what’s on the inside, we attract and connect with beautiful people around the world.
The reactions are funny, our friendship is a great example that when we open our hearts and minds, we open up the possibility to some fantastic friendships. Billionaire and I like to tell people we are brothers (brothers from another mother) and ask people if they see the family resemblance. The look on people’s face is priceless.
“We all come from different walks of life, that doesn’t mean we can’t walk together”. Billionaire P.A.
Billionaire made a statement about relationships that is spot on, that made total sense, and really made things clear for me.
Each person you meet, work your way back (he said 10 people) through how you met that person. As you realize you meet quality people because of one person in particular, you will value that person’s relationship even more.
Completely explains why I value my relationship more and feel a strong bond, friendship, and appreciation with Zo Williams and Billionaire P.A.
I appreciate Billionaire for making the choice to not schedule anything the two days following the party, so we could hang out and have fun.
Most importantly he took a day for himself. Billionaire deserved the time off. He does so much for so many, it was good to watch him relax.
And I appreciate him and Serrano for showing me around L.A.
They took me to numerous places (Hollywood blvd, Santa Monica Pier, Mel’s Diner, The Grove), to name a few. I’ll have to go back for more.
I am thankful for all the people I met, spent time with, getting together with different ones and being shown around and just having a really good time. As I grow thru the years, it does not matter what we do or where we are, I find the most fun in being with people with good hearts and souls.
Thank you everyone who I saw, met, made friends with, hung out with, who gave me a place to stay. Thanks for the love, laughter, positive energy, inspiration, and the great times!!!
This article contains my beliefs on the real cause of anger among youths and adults (especially men) and my recommended solution.
Why have I written this article on a positive living site?
This article is on my positive living site because I believe anger strongly relates to our youth growing up in a negative environment. Kids are crying out because they are angry and frustrated. The media has provided a large medium for our youth to get attention. Our children are crying, we need to listen, provide them the help and tools they need to better their future and all those around them.
Every life is valuable and deserves to be safe from harm and to live with kindness, dignity, and respect.
Our right to bear arms.
I do believe in the right to bear arms. I believe in gun safety and responsibility.
I do not believe there is any reason the average citizen needs an assault rifle. The average citizen does not need access to high capacity clips.
I am fine with a national registry. We can improve and enforce gun laws. I believe we need to strengthen the straw purchase laws. If you buy a gun for someone you know could not or should not have one, it should be a felony with very strong penalties.
I don’t own a gun and have no desire to own and gun. I respect and I will protect your right to own a gun.
Until we start eliminating the real cause for anger, I believe we need to make it difficult for our angered and frustrated youth to gain access to weapons that can kill themselves and many lives in a short amount of time.
I believe we have a behavior problem with youth that has stemmed from the negative environment in which they are being raised.
How I have formed this belief.
Listening to Zo Williams (Voice of Reason), his guests and many callers have provided me with a better understanding about all the different relationships from their personal experiences of how they were raised and the communities in which they grew up.
The issue that caught my attention the most, listening to Zo Williams and his guests and callers, has been how boys today are being raised without a positive male role model / influence, a living example to show them how to treat themselves, women and other people with kindness, dignity, and respect. Kids can be told what to do and how to behave, however, the best you can do for a child is to provide them a living example of how to treat yourself with dignity and respect, and how to treat others with dignity and respect.
Solution: Zo is doing a fantastic job of teaching us adults how we go from broken relationships to repaired relationships. We first need to fix ourselves. Fixing ourselves means we must learn our current behaviors so we can correct our behavior. Correcting our behavior and becoming better people allows us to become a living example of what to do and how to treat others which our children can follow.
Damaged home. A lot of men and boys today have anger and I believe it is a result of the damaged home they are from. We need to focus on repairing our homes. By repair, I mean creating a home, regardless of single or married households, where everyone in the home treats each other with kindness, dignity, and respect. Too many men have grown up and are growing up without a father. Boys need a positive male role model.
Being raised in a positive environment. I was fortunate to grow up in a positive environment. My father was a living example of how to treat yourself and others with kindness, dignity, and respect. My uncle, on occasion, found himself between jobs and would call my dad for support. My dad would see him through and help him so he would not be on the street. My dad was devoted to family and believed family was there to support each other. This is where I learned about empathy and helping others. I was raised with self worth and that I mattered. And that ALL lives are to be valued. I watched my parents show respect for themselves and all people they came in contact with. My dad would pick up hitchhikers; he stopped to help a college age girl with a flat tire. My dad's example of conduct helped me learn how to deal with anger and frustration. Many young boys AND girls do not have living examples of behavior.
An angry teenager. (Negative energy) Twenty plus years ago, I had a 15 year old waiting on my doorstep when I got home from work. His parents gave him every material thing he wanted. They did not spend any time with him. One of his class assignments was to write something good about his life. He looked at me and said he could not come up with anything. That broke my heart. He took me into his bedroom and showed me where he had punched holes in his walls. There was no punishment for the holes in his walls. He had no parental structure or parental involvement. This kid had lots of anger. If I would have heard his name on the news for shooting up his school, I would not have been surprised. The saddest part of all, his mother was a psychologist. He felt total isolation. He was not in any trouble with the law. He was a good kid at heart who was in a lot of pain.
I believe we have children in today's society who are hurting and angry because they have parents who are not present. We have youth you are lacking parent(s) support and involvement (they are not putting their children first; the parents themselves are damaged and are passing along their damage to their children). These damaged parents are not providing their kids a safe place to fall. We count on our family to be a place of comfort and support and to shield us from the rest of the world. Too much pressure and responsibility is being put on kids today because their parents are too concerned about their own life and in some cases, arguing with all of their exes. Some damaged adults are punishing their ex by not letting them see their child. While hurting the ex, they are creating damage to their child by not letting them see their father.
Ultimately, I do not believe our problem with anger is the cause of guns. I believe it is an effect of a much larger problem. I believe the cause is damaged households. I believe we have damaged households bringing up damaged kids. Too many kids today are not being told and shown they are valuable, and to value themselves. And they are not be taught and shown self worth. They also do not have good examples of how to respect others because all the adults in their lives are not showing respect and kindness to other adults. When you don't value your own life, you won't value another person's life.
Everyone needs to know they have value, self worth, and know that they have someone to count on for support and guidance.
If you felt like no one cared about you and you had no support structure, how would this make you feel?
Somewhere along the way, some adults have become disconnected and into a negative mindset.
Stress: We all feed off of each other's energy. Due to many reasons in today's society; the economy, the wars, job,, etc. outside stress is being brought into the home and adding to the stress within the home. Children feel your stress. It is good for all of us to learn how to manage stress. Stress does and will exist in our lives, it is a matter of managing stress appropriately. Aim for a calm and peaceful household. It is ok to ask for outside help.
I believe in our youth and that given the opportunity, they will do better once they know better. They need a support structure and to know they are valued, that they are loved, they have a safe place to fall, and they will be heard.
Zo Williams is helping reach adults to understand their behavior and to dig deep within themselves to learn and better their behavior. Before you can change your behavior, you must know your behavior.
Billionaire P.A is empowering our youth by teaching them the power of their mind. Billionaire P.A. is a living example of living in a negative environment and changing his mindset to positive. He has been on both sides and he lives what he speaks.
I believe as we continue to guide our children into a positive mindset, that they will bless themselves, us, and future generations with positive and powerful benefits. They will be involved with their children by being living examples of kindness, respect, and dignity to themselves and others.
This is why I support Zo Williams, and Billionaire P.A. and all the other family members on my site. They have the tools and the passion to help us ALL improve ourselves, our children, and our society.
I strongly support ALL people empowering our youth. Our youth deserve a strong happy successful life. As adults we have a responsibility to guide them in the right direction.
Once, we realize we all already have the tools to live positive within us, the world of opportunities and blessing opens wide.
Thank you for reading this whole article. I am a citizen who loves, cares and values everyone in society. I respect everyone's thoughts and opinions.
How do Random Acts of Kindnessapply to living a positive life?
When you do something nice for someone you do not know, they will in turn do something nice for someone else. The universe will in turn do something nice for you. Ultimately, the more kindness you share, the more people want to be in your presence and their energy will be positive.
Think of how you feel, when someone you do not know does something nice for you or something in general, such as an unexpected discount on something you purchase on a regular basis. Now, take that feeling and share it with others. The universe is amazingly kind. Sharing random kindness, returns to you and lifts your spirits. We are all in this world together. Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness, dignity, and respect. People will want to be in your presence. You will start to attract people with good energy.
“You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.” John Wooden
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” Leo Buscaglia
“I expect to pass through life but once. If therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again.” William Penn
“Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness.” Seneca
“Everything we do is infused with the energy with which we do it. If we’re frantic, life will be frantic. If we’re peaceful, life will be peaceful. And so our goal in any situation becomes inner peace.” Marianne Williamson
The following, are tips I use to keep a positive attitude in traffic:
Keep calm and refrain from taking other drivers behavior personal.
Be empathetic and show compassion: put yourself in the other person’s shoes, maybe the other driver (fellow human being) received news a family is in the hospital, passed away, or any number of bad news. Our fellow human needs kindness in their life and showing them kindness, instead of reacting to their bad behavior, might bring them back to a better place. It may be down the road (literally or figuratively) and you may not see them after this happens. Forgive them for their bad behavior. It may not be a true reflection of who they are, only a reaction to a situation that recently happened to them.
Fellow drivers may be under stress: Have you made bad driving decisions after having had a bad day or received bad news? Stress will cause us to make bad decisions. Another tip branch is “How to Manage Stress”. As you learn to look at life from a positive perspective, you will be able handle stress and situations in a relaxed and calm, and peaceful mind.
Remember these are fellow human beings: who, if you were to meet with them in any other place, are the same as you and me. We all have or have had personal issues that have caused us to not think rationally. Some people have not been taught how to properly resolve their personal issues. There are better ways of dealing with personal issues than driving a vehicle in a wild fashion. However, the situation is happening, and you have no control over the other person’s action. You DO have control over your reaction and mindset of the situation.
Back off, let them have the road ahead where you can keep an eye on them. Say a prayer (I recommend keeping your eyes open while driving and praying).
Pick a lane, pick a speed (credit to a former coworker): Driving the flow of most traffic and picking a speed which keeps you steady and from having to pass on a frequent basis reduces stress and frustration. Be steady (as you should be in all areas of life) and let others do their things around you. Driving fast does not save you much time. Diving fast and hard is an additional cost to maintaining and repairing your vehicle, plus uses more gas (another additional cost). A stress reducer.
Maintain a reasonable speed: Go with the flow of traffic and maintain a safe distance. Also, the closer to the speed limit you drive, the less stress of watching for patrol.
Audio entertainment: Listen to audio book / comedy podcast / something that will make you laugh.
How does being a Teacher and a Student apply to living a positive life?
By learning and teaching how to treat each other, we can learn the results of positive and negative behavior. Positive behavior has many more benefits and rewards.
What we learn from people makes them the teacher and us the student. What people learn from us makes us the teacher and them the student.
As we make our journey through this world, we learn, from every person we meet and we teach every person who meets us.
We learn how some people live in negative energy, while others live in positive energy. The negative energy is exhausting and draining. The positive energy is refreshing, uplifting, and we feel renewed sense of strength. We learn how both make us feel. We need to learn what behaviors are within each environment so that we can teach the good behaviors to our students so they feel the positive and refreshed. People will want to be around you when you are teaching a lesson of renewed energy and strength. And you will attract more uplifting positive people.
As we progress through life, we will pay attention to how other people treat us and make us feel. People can say the nicest things to us, yet their actions are the opposite. As students, our lesson to learn is how to treat people.The best way to treat people comes from a positve energy source. Especially since we believe in ourselves, and we know we deserve to be treated with kindness, dignity, and respect. We shall stand up for ourselves; give the person a chance to apologize and mend their ways with us. If they choose the opposite, we will walk and make a note to avoid these type people in the future.
As students, we learn how it feels when people treat us negatively or positively. We will toss the negative and keep the positive. We shall teach our students a better lesson through positive verbal and nonverbal communication. We shall have made mental notes on how each energy source made us feel as a student, so when our students are learning from us (the teacher), we will make a conscience decision to teach a lesson of treating people with kindness, dignity, and respect thru positive energy. Always remember to live so that our words and actions are in unison.
We need to take all the lessons learned (good and bad) as a student, filter them and strive to put forth quality, positive, and refreshing information to our students. Strive to make people feel better about themselves while they are in your presence and leave them feeling uplifted and happy for spending time with you.
“The dream begins with a teacher who believes in you, who tugs and pushes and leads you to the next plateau, sometimes poking you with a sharp stick called “truth.” Dan Rather
“Teachers who inspire realize there will always be rocks in the road ahead of us. They will be stumbling blocks or stepping stones; it all depends on how we use them.” Author Unknown
“If you have knowledge, let others light their candles at it.” Margaret Fuller
“One looks back with appreciation to the brilliant teachers, but with gratitude to those who touched our human feelings. The curriculum is so much necessary raw material, but warmth is the vital element for the growing plant and for the soul of the child.” Carl Jung
Being a person who is known for his honesty, has been a life that has treated me well. If asked a question, I will be honest and tactful (kind) with the truth. Being tactful includes being a kind person. Respect the other persons feelings. Everyone deserves the truth, kindness, and respect. They trust you enough to ask for your “opinion”, you should trust and respect them enough to give them an honest “opinion”. Refrain from going out of your way and telling your thoughts about things. Most often, people don’t want to hear your thoughts, your thoughts are your “opinions”. It may be your truth, to them it is your opinion.
Generally, my friends and I not concerned what each other is wearing. When we get together, most often, it is casual and it’s about spending quality time with quality people. If you are going to a special event with friends and what one is wearing something less than flattering, whether it is your taste or not, I lean towards telling them (it is a difficult call). You know your friends best and how to approach them. I would rather be told so to keep me from looking a little off or foolish when I go out. I respect my friends for letting me know. My friends and I are secure enough in who we are, we realize bad clothes days happen and oh well, it’s not the end of the world.
When I am provided the truth (and from a friend who I know is honest), being their truth as they know it to be to them, I can make an informed decision. This is very effective when having a disagreement. When two people know where each other stand, they can make an educated and informed decision as to their approach to the result of the disagreement. I have greater respect for honest people who are forthcoming with all the facts.
Much of my experience was taught by and learned from my father. I watched him suffer a long term illness. Each time he would have a new medical problem, his honest doctor, informed him of the problem, provided the facts on all the options to fix the problem, then, my father was able to make an education decision based on the truth as to which solution to follow to get him back to a functioning level.
Honesty with tact (kindness) shows respect. With a reputation for being kind and considerate, people will be receptive to you when you tell the truth.
Being honest and truthful gives other people a fair opportunity to like you or not like you. It is okay if people choose not to like me. By being honest, you will gain friends who are honest and trustworthy. What you project, comes to you in return.