Cary Hokama was born in Tokyo, Japan and grew up in Los Angeles, CA.
After spending 8 years as the lead singer of a rock band, Cary decided to nationally televise his wedding on the Oprah Winfrey Network.
Today, Cary builds champions and his mantra is simple: To help others create an inspiring life worth sharing, regardless of their circumstances.
His passion and mission focuses on equipping individuals with the essential tools and skills required for self-mastery and holistic personal transformation. From fitness enthusiasts and martial arts practitioners to business and community leaders, Cary finds potential and unlocks it, releasing a torrent of opportunity across a multitude of industries.
Cary’s best-selling book, Own Your Self: Master Your Character, Rise To Any Challenge, & Find True Inner Peace can be found on Amazon.
“New data indicates that Alabama Rot, a serious disease affecting dogs, may be taking a foothold in the UK and that Lyme disease, a bacterial disease spread by ticks, is on the rise, too. The risk to your dog from either of these remains very low, but it is nonetheless important to understand the symptoms and be able to recognize the warning signs should your pet come into contact with either, potentially life-threatening conditions.” Read More
What is it?
“Alabama rot is the common term for cutaneous and renal glomerular vasculopathy (CRGV). It is a mysterious disease which is hard to identify and sadly, very difficult to treat. Since December 2012, there have been 78 confirmed cases in the UK, including 14 in 2016 so far.” Read More
An unknown cause
“As mentioned, the causes of Alabama Rot are still unknown and we don’t yet know if it can pass between dogs, either. What we do know, is that the strain afflicting the UK is not limited to any particular breed, body weight, sex or age, and the disease affects the skin and kidneys.” Read More
How to prevent it
“There are no specific steps you can take to prevent your dog from contracting the disease, but there is some evidence of seasonal fluctuation, with most cases appearing between November and June.” Read More
Know the signs and check your dog
“Importantly, you should always keep a lookout for the first sign of Alabama Rot, which is skin sores that have not been caused by a physical injury. These sores can present as lesions, swelling, a patch of red skin, or may be open and ulcer-like. The sores are most commonly found below the knee or elbow or occasionally on the stomach or face. Usually, this will cause localised hair loss and the dog will begin licking the wound. These lesions will be followed – between two and seven days later – with outward symptoms of kidney failure: reduced appetite, fatigue, and vomiting.” Read More
Lyme disease What is it? “Lyme disease, conspicuous when contracted by humans because of its bullseye rash, can also be deadly to dogs although the primary symptom is lameness. There has been a 560% increase in cases of the disease affecting dogs, with 99 reported in 2015 alone. These reported cases are thought to be just the tip of the iceberg, though. NHS data also reveals that the number of diagnosed cases amongst people has increased fourfold between 2001 and 2013, with, at least part of the increase, being attributed to the warmer winters we are experiencing in the UK.” Read More
Preventing Lyme disease
“There are a number of vaccines available for dogs that claim to prevent or reduce the risk of Lyme disease, however, some vets have criticised the efficacy of these and do not recommend them. You should always seek your vet’s advice specific to your dog and circumstances.” Read More
If your dog is diagnosed
“Lyme disease is diagnosed with a blood test and requires a relatively simple treatment of antibiotics lasting between 14 and 30 days. However, it is possible for your dog to relapse after this treatment and they should be monitored carefully. Where the disease causes acute pain, such as in joints, your vet may recommend a pain relieving treatment in addition to the antibiotic.” Read More
A small but growing risk “Both Lyme disease and Alabama rot affect a very small number of dogs each year, but the number of reported cases is growing. The risks for Lyme disease are mostly between late Spring and Autumn when the tick population is highest, so now is the time to be particularly vigilant. If left untreated, Lyme disease can be a serious and debilitating condition which can cause long term problem.” Read More
The goal of “Pet Care” is to connect the world with Resources from around the world which contain tips and guidance for taking care of the God’s sweet animals who so generously give unconditional love.
THE NEW DOG MICROCHIPPING LAWS: WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW
What is microchipping? Did you know that 8.5 million families in the UK have at least one dog?* Read More
So what is the new legislation? Three years ago the UK Government introduced plans to change the way we ‘register’ our pets. On April 6th, that new legislation is coming into practice. From this date forward, every dog in England, Scotland and Wales will be required by law to be microchipped. Read More
Why is the new legislation being implemented? “The introduction of the new microchipping regulations will help educate the dog owning population of the importance of not only microchipping but the essential supporting registration on a microchip database. We know there is a vast amount of misunderstanding about the procedure but now that it is going to be a legal requirement we have the opportunity to improve this knowledge, increase the number of microchipped dogs and ultimately bring more lost pets home.” – Beverley Campbell, Anibase. Read More
What do you need to do as a dog owner? To get ready for the new legislation you will need to have your dog microchipped before the 6th April 2016 if they are 8 weeks or older. If your dog is found not to be microchipped after this time, you’ll be given 21 day to have the procedure done. Read More
Frequently asked questions about microchipping Read More
In summary… The new dog microchipping law is a good thing. It’s something that many animal welfare organisations have been campaigning a number of years for. Getting your dog microchipped is quick, painless and affordable (even free at selected subsidised clinics), and it’s the best chance you have at being reunited with your beloved pet should they ever go missing.
It’s also something the government has been planning for a number of years to help reduce cost burdens on the taxpayer and aid with the prosecutions of those who neglect or abuse dogs. Read More
“Don’t lie down with anyone who is not willing to stand up for you.” Robert Overstreet
The goal of “Mental Nourishment” is to connect the world with Resources from around the world which contain tips and guidance for your journey towards success. Most importantly, how to live a life with well balanced emotional health.
1. Give Your Diet a Berry Boost. If you do one thing this summer to improve your diet, have a cup of mixed fresh berries — blackberries, blueberries, or strawberries — every day. They’ll help you load up on antioxidants, which may help prevent damage to tissues and reduce the risks of age-related illnesses. Blueberries and blackberries are especially antioxidant-rich.
2. Get Dirty — and Stress Less To improve your stress level, plant a small garden, cultivate a flower box, or if space is really limited, plant a few flower pots — indoors or out.
3. Floss Daily. You know you need to, now it’s time to start: floss every single day. Do it at the beach (in a secluded spot), while reading on your patio, or when watching TV — and the task will breeze by.
4. Get Outside to Exercise. Pick one outdoor activity — going on a hike, taking a nature walk, playing games such as tag with your kids, cycling, roller blading, or swimming — to shed that cooped-up feeling of gym workouts.
5. Be Good to Your Eyes. To protect your vision at work and at play, wear protective eyewear. When outdoors, wear sunglasses that block at least 99% of ultraviolet A and B rays. Sunglasses can help prevent cataractscataracts, as well as wrinkles around the eyes.
6. Vacation Time! Improve your heart health: take advantage of summer’s slower schedule by using your vacation time to unwind.
7. Alcohol: Go Lite. Summer’s a great time to skip drinks with hard alcohol and choose a light, chilled alcoholic beverage (unless you are pregnant or should not drink for health or other reasons).
8. Sleep Well. Resist the urge to stay up later during long summer days. Instead pay attention to good sleep hygiene by keeping the same bedtime and wake-up schedule and not drinking alcohol within three hours of bedtime.
“Food powers your life. It fuels all bodily processes that enable you to move, think and breathe. There is no aspect of your life that is not influenced by what you eat. Fueling your body with processed food, fast food, sugar, fat and calorie-dense food affects who you are, what you do and your ability to pursue your dreams and aspirations. Food is that powerful – use it to your advantage.”
“Most of us have heard the saying, “It takes a village to raise a child” and it is so true. Periodically, it is a good idea to take inventory of your “village” to see how strong and supportive it is. Summer is a wonderful time to do that, and to make any necessary adjustments.
Here are three simple tips to help:”
1. “Energy. Of those you spend time with, who contributes to your energy so that you walk away refreshed and feeling supported? Who detracts from it? For your children, who of their friends would you consider to be a positive and healthy influence? Who is not?…”
2. “Character. What character traits are important to you? What would you desire to instill in your children? That is reflected in who you associate with. It is also reflected in who your children associate with…”
3. “Non-Judgment. While we want to teach our children to be discerning, it is also important to teach our children not to be judgmental; it’s good that people are different. There are certain behaviors, people and things we may want in our lives, and there are other behaviors, people and things we would prefer not to have…”
The times we are living are full of segregation and separatism. You may be thinking segregation in 2016….Get out of here; there isn’t segregation in 2016! However, if you walk into the majority of the high school cafeterias you will see this group over here, that group over there and them over there. As adults we also tend to only socialize with those that look, walk and talk like us. This is a natural animalistic tendency, which we probably behave this way for numerous of reasons. One reason is because it makes us comfortable. We feel at ease and safe in environments with those from the same cultural and social background as us. But does this create unity in the world? How does this make us better collectively as a society? Our goal should be to make the world a better place and to progress positively. How can we bridge this gap if we do not expand our circle and unify?
Segregation and separatism breeds a “themism” problem. “Themism” is a term we coined and basically means a person lacks understanding of another group and therefore makes inaccurate preconceived assumptions about others, which are usually negative, biased and not founded on facts. The result of “themism” is a person comes to have a fear of others. Consciously or subconsciously people come to think, “They don’t have my best interest,” “They cannot be trusted,” “They are against me,” or “They are a threat.” We can go on and on.
They, They, They: There is much power in the mind.
–> What if we adjust our thinking from they to us?
No matter the skin complexion, no matter the dialect, no matter the accent in one’s voice.
–> What if we viewed “them” as our own and treated “them” as our family?
No matter the skin complexion, no matter the dialect, no matter the accent in one’s voice.
–> What if we truly expanded our circle to gain understanding of others?
No matter the skin complexion, no matter the dialect, no matter the accent in one’s voice.
3 Simple INSPIRING Ways to take action on “Themism”: First, we must recognize and accept the tendency of “themism.” We must accept the fact that we havepreconceived notions of a person before we even get to know them. We do not extend the same love and consideration that we give to those that look and act as we do.
Second, we must intentionally adjust our behaviors and get uncomfortable. To unify the human race, we cannot only surround ourselves with those that have the same line of thinking as us. We must respectfully engage in dialogue with others (them) to understand their concerns and feelings.
Third, once communication takes place we can collectively come up with a unified course of action to bridge the gap. What this means is we will take an empathetic approach to unify towards a common goal.
Note – These three steps are best in a small setting where everyone can be heard and voice their viewpoint and perspective (ideally 6-8 people).
Please email us your feedback so we can share your stories on this approach and how you have inspired others.
Hugs & Much Love!
June 27, 2015
When I was at the court house on jury duty, the judge had given us a 10 min recess and while on break, I was standing talking with two black gentlemen. While talking with these two black gentlemen, I received a glare from a white man who obviously worked in the court house. He glared more than once. I ignored him and continued the conversation.
We had a black female jury foreman who was amazing. She is a true leader. The jury was a diverse group of people who listened to each other. We worked thru our differences.
I am grateful my parents raised me to speak, listen, and respect everyone. We can disagree with people, yet still show them respect. There are amazing people in this world.
By talking with different people we gain a better understanding of who they are, which provides us the opportunity to gain a better understanding of who we are. Everyone wants, need, and to deserve to feel they matter. Let us live our lives giving to others what we desire for ourselves.
In the words of Maya Angelou, “We are more alike than we are unalike.”
Our words, actions, and energy has a ripple effect on the lives of others. What we say and do plant seeds within others… As others plant seeds within us. Let us be aware of the type of seeds we are planting and do our best to plant seeds of goodness for their growth.
You are worthy, you are loved, you are beautiful. #Believe it, know it, live it.
We are all born of God, we are children, brothers and sisters. White people: We are not better than anyone else. We need to acknowledge the fact that media is a propaganda machine and law enforcement treat us better and the media shows us in a better light than our brothers and sisters who are black. White privilege does exist.
My family has been in America a few generations and I am not 100 percent certain of any slave owners in my family. I do stand up and apologize for the abuse, and disprespect that has gone on for far too long.
I am grateful and I appreciate all the hard physical labor my brothers and sisters have done.
It confuses me how anyone or any corporation would mistreat people who are working hard to bring in the dollars and make the that person or company what it is.
I agree with Tim Wise. I support all the positive steps black people are doing to continue their journey towards being treated with full equality and respect. I do what I can to help educate the minds of my fellow white people to open their eyes toward #whiteprivilege.
God bless each and every one of us. Love to all, may we continue to march towards full equality. Have a #blessed and #wealthy day.
March 14, 2015
Media vs. Real Life – Know the Difference
Why be concerned tv shows are not accurately portraying life? TV is entertainment.
We as adults let TV influence our lives. And on occasion, parents let tv raise their kids.
TV was initially created as a form of entertainment. I am not sure exactly when the lines became blurred and then crossed. I was raised to learn the difference between “reality” and “entertainment”. It was easier 30 years ago, because TV was not on 24/7, there were only a dozen channels, and they actually went off the air.
We must do our best to use television and all sources of entertainment/media as tools for learning and examples. We must not allow the media to decide the direction in which our life will travel. The decision is up to us.
As parents, and grown adults, we must pay close attention to what we are watching. Accept it as entertainment. And if we have children, become involved in our kids lives. Do our best to monitor and know what our kids are watching and have discussions with them about the shows.
There are a lot of subliminal messaging in shows thru out television, advertisements, and a all forms of media in the world.
Stay awake, pay attention: In today’s world, there is so much thrown at us and from all different directions, that we must make the conscious effort to decide what we let come in to our minds, what is good for us and what is not good for us, and thus, removing the garbage from our minds.
Enjoy the shows, enjoy your life, enjoy your kids, friend and family.
February 15, 2015
Life is about relationships
Want people in your life when you’re old and feeble? Treat people with kindness and respect when you’re young and strong.
Life is about relationships… everyone which enters our life has a purpose. We appreciate the good people more by having spent time with bad people.
Our actions and behavior draws people in our lives. Want better people in your life? Improve your behavior.
I’ve had interesting characters in my life. I’m thankful for having them crossed my path because I am a stronger and better person.
I am #grateful for all the wonderful people in my life now. As I elevated my attitude, the quality of people in my life elevated as well.
May you learn, grow, and be more healthy mentally, spiritually, and emotionally as the years pass.
Whether we are in a relationship or single, we have a responsibility to show the special people in our lives how much they mean to us by treating them with love, kindness, respect, and communicating our feelings.
When we wake up every day of the year, one question should be, “What is one thing I can do today to make the lives better of the people I love?”
Valentine’s Day is a day to actually say thank you to the special person or people in your life. To my friends and family who support me:
Always be open to the twists and turns along your journey.
While going thru college, many friends and family asked if I was going to follow in my family’s footsteps and become a teacher. I did not feel it my calling, instead I chose a field in computers and ended up in publications.
Ironically, I have been a mentor to many people and have done one on one training to many people. Guess I have ended up becoming a teacher.
As far as working with kids, my paths have crossed with The Billionaire P.A. who is empowering all people, focusing on the youth. God instilled within my heart to support this man. I proudly call Billionaire my friend. In so doing, I am a huge supporter and proud sponsor.
Life has an interesting way of working out. My family has many teachers and believe in educating kids. My path to teaching and helping kids took a different path.
Always be open to the twists and turns along your journey. Follow your heart, your passion, your dream. Believe strongly in yourself, maintain your faith in God, for he shall guide you and provide all you need.
December 30, 2014
The beginning of a new year is a good time to reflect on the ups and downs of the previous year. A time to evaluate where we were, how far we have come, and where we want to be.
Resolutions (goals to change and grow our life), can be made any time of year.
I believe we feel guilty for falling short the year before and not be as close to where we want to be. In so doing, when we make our resolutions, we inaccurately put the resolutions into effect. We try to cram everything in and exhaust ourselves mentally, physically, and emotionally.
The mighty Oak trees with deep roots take many years to grow.
Stop feeling the need to make up for lost time. Look at each resolution as a new change in your life. Only start one resolution at a time. Create a manageable plan, incorporate the resolution and once it has become established in your life successfully, then, introduce another resolution.
Don’t label yourself a failure: We are only a failure if we choose not to pick ourselves up. Having failed, means we are trying and moving forward. Use the moments when you fail as lessons of what not to do (what did not work). They are valuable tools of learning for growth.
You can, be the person you want to be. Through faith, consistency, and hard work. Surround yourself with people who build each other up.
December 20, 2014
A coworker constantly tells people why things won’t work out or why it is not possible. They always have excuses. Because of their own fears, they discourage others from living their truth and their passion. It is tiring to stand up to people who throw the arrow of negativity and excuses your way.
Not everyone will see or understand your vision and that is ok. As long as you do, God gave all of us a dream, what with do with it, is up to us.
Many people who have vision have chosen to follow their fears instead of their vision. To make themselves feel better about not accomplishing their dreams, they keep others from living theirs.
The same people, when you try to encourage them, are full of excuses. I have given many money making ideas and it has become obvious this person has dedicated their life to excuses. Ok, so my ideas are not their ideas. You can’t force the spark. I accept they choose to live on excuses. Live your life as an example for others.
If you are not ready or choose not to live your dream, then, don’t discourage others from living theirs. No one wants to or care about your excuses. It amazes me how people who have done nothing to attempt to make their passion a reality, are so knowledgeable to tell other people their life won’t work out!!
Makes me question this person’s faith in God. They are constantly in a state of worry. God has placed many opportunities before this person, yet, they would rather complain than walk the path. When your faith is strong, how can you still have worry on the same subject, when you have turned it over to God?
We must stand strong for ourselves and live what is right in our heart and soul. We must hold strong to our faith in ourselves and God. I do have concerns about “HOW” some things will work out. I choose not to dwell on the how. I have complete faith it “WILL” work out. God has always seen me thru.
Sir Robert Peel’s (5 February 1788 – 2 July 1850) Nine Principles of Policing:
Police Commissioner William J. Bratton lists the following guidelines on his blog. There is some doubt among scholars that Sir Robert Peel actually enunciated any of his nine principles himself — some researchers say they were formulated in 1829 by the two first commissioners of London’s Metropolitan Police Department.
1: The basic mission for which the police exist is to prevent crime and disorder.
2: The ability of the police to perform their duties is dependent upon the public approval of police actions.
3: Police must secure the willing co-operation of the public in voluntary observation of the law to be able to secure and maintain the respect of the public.
4: The degree of co-operation of the public that can be secured diminishes proportionately to the necessity of the use of physical force.
5: Police seek and preserve public favor not by catering to public opinion, but by constantly demonstrating absolute impartial service to the law.
6: Police use physical force to the extent necessary to secure observance of the law or to restore order only when the exercise of persuasion, advice, and warning is found to be insufficient.
7: Police, at all times, should maintain a relationship with the public that gives reality to the historic tradition that the police are the public and the public are the police; the police being only members of the public who are paid to give full-time attention to duties which are incumbent upon every citizen in the interests of community welfare and existence.
8: Police should always direct their action strictly towards their functions, and never appear to usurp the powers of the judiciary.
9: The test of police efficiency is the absence of crime and disorder, not the visible evidence of police action in dealing with it.
December 10, 2014
Respecting Powerful Black Men:
From the day President Obama was elected, I said there are a group of racist and bigoted republicans who hate the thought of a black man doing great things for our nation. Then, all the injustice the bigots have been selling to the citizens of America on the backs of blacks will come to light.
A total disgrace when you hate a man for the color of his skin so much that you will do everything in your power to make him look bad. And worse, block his every move which hurts and does not move the country forward.
Agree or disagree with all of the presidents policies and decisions, I credit the man for standing upright and marching forward with dignity and class. Using the law within his power to do what is in heart and soul to help our great nation move forward.
I also believe being a community leader that after he leaves office, Mr. Obama, as with the first lady, they will do great things to help the citizens of America.
November 22, 2014
We are not helping them by letting them stay in our house, living off of us. I acknowledge that life happens and there are times when hard working people need a helping hand. By letting moochers stay with us, we are only helping ourselves to feel better. Most moochers have the ability to take care of themselves. Why should they move on and work when they have everything they need without working?
Love: Let us love ourselves and them enough to give them the nudge / push they need to move forward with their life. If they need extra help (mental, addiction, etc.), and you have the ability to help (you can afford, or have the contacts), then do so. Kicking them out, is helping not hurting them. It is amazing how most moochers will land on their feet and take care of themselves.
Support: Know the difference (the fine line) between supporting a person in a manner that is preparing them to move forward and supporting them in a manner that is allowing them stay in one place.
Always be willing to help: Learn to read people and difference between those who are show gratitude and who are making an effort of moving forward and those who are looking for a hand out.
Helping doesn’t mean you always have to do something. You are helping by telling people no. Listen to your gut (instincts) and if it does not feel right to get involved with a person, then don’t.
Keep your heart open, mind open, and aware. Always be kind, polite, and respectful.
November 9, 2014
We can’t speak and gain knowledge at the same time.
The more we close our mouth and listen, the more we learn. There are amazing people with incredible knowledge from their personal experiences. Gaining knowledge doesn’t mean we have to agree with everything other people are saying. Learning to listen, provides us with the ability to gain a better understanding of our own beliefs. In addition, to gaining a respect for the path other people have walked.
November 8, 2014
Let them see you sweat:
When the opportunity arises, let kids see the hard work behind the scenes. They need to learn that success doesn’t “just happen”. Be a great example of faith, consistency, hard work.
Zo discusses topics others are afraid to even touch. Where we are in society did not just happen. I like how Zo brings in experts on all the different topics. In addition, how he brings in guests with different backgrounds with different viewpoints to instigate the discussion.
To have a better understanding of how to go forward, we must have a better understanding of where we have been and how it has all been laid out.
Agree or disagree with a given topic, Zo Williams “The Zo What? Morning Show” plants the seeds of thought for us to awaken our consciousness. Providing the opportunity for growth, empowerment, and elevating our lives.
October 26, 2014
Why is the statement, “Family are the ones who hurt us the most?” so true? I rephrase the question. “Why are the ones who share our DNA the ones who hurt us the most?”
Maybe because we “assume” people who share our DNA should have our back? Those who are not willing to stand up for us and with us, do not deserve, nor anywhere is it written we must keep them in our life.
Family, by true definition are those who DO stand up with us and for us. They are involved in our life and don’t make excuses.
More people from around the world are closer and support me stronger than the people who share my DNA.
For all my “family”, I am truly thankful.
October 18, 2014
We set the tone and course of our life by the type and value we place on the people in our lives.
When we choose the behavior, we choose the consequence. Likewise with relationships, we choose the types of behavior we allow in our life.
Instead of blaming and getting angry at the people in your life (the people you allowed in to your life) treating you poorly, look inside and asked why I allow them in? Why do I think I deserve to be treated this way. All relationships are designed for your growth.
Learn to love yourself, as God designed you.
Show gratitude for your great relationships. You are worthy, you DO deserve. There are people who will love for for all your flaws and bad choices and who will not judge you. These people are to be appreciated and hold onto them. When God sends one of these friends to you, say thank you.
October 14, 2014
The negative flow stops with us.
Oprah did something years ago that has stuck with me. On the rare occasion she took a cab and the cab driver was rude and obviously having a bad day. Instead of letting his negative energy carry on thru her, she reached out to him and showed that she cared about him. He confessed, and apologized for his behavior. She left him a larger tip than she normally would have.
We never know the extenuating circumstance for another person’s behavior. We are too quick to take it personal, when most often it has nothing to do with us; we are the next person they are in contact with. At that moment, we have the opportunity to stop the negative flow and change the course to positive.
“Combo guard New Williams, a 4-star talent from Santa Monica (Ca.), committed to the Tigers on Sunday during his official visit. He also held offers from, among others, Arizona State, Louisville, Oregon, San Diego State and UNLV.
Williams told the Tigers on Saturday night he was headed to the Plains. It became public Sunday morning.” >>> Continue Reading <<<
August 24, 2014
“Emotions are necessary for learning how to appreciate life and for growth. There is an opposite to every emotion. All feelings are normal and okay. It’s how we react to our emotions that can lead to destruction. Feel it, learn to control your feelings and grow. Use your emotions as fertilizer in the soil of life.” Robert Overstreet
August 27, 2014
If a friend/loved starts talking suicide, have you thought how you would react? Do not leave them alone regardless of what they say. Be willing to make the appointment with a counselor and go with them to make sure they make it to their appointment. #suicideawareness
August 19, 2014
Police put the pot on the stove, turn up the heat to boil and when the pot boils over they blame the pot. Time to replace the cooks. This is exactly what the police want to happen to make people they hate look bad. My suggestion is to know your police department and come together as a community to change what is necessary to put people in charge who actually and genuinely protect you and have your back not shoot you in the back (or front as the cop did #MichaelBrown in #Ferguson)
August 21, 2014
“Love thy neighbor as you love yourself. If you don’t love your neighbor, look within and find the love for yourself that you are longing. Forgive and let go those who have hurt you. The hate you spew forth to others represents the hate and anger you have inside. Learn to love yourself and you will see the beauty in others and will be able to love others as God designed you to be and do.” Robert Overstreet
July 26, 2014
The Road Best Traveled.
You are where you are because of all the places you have been. Are you happy with where you are? Are you on the right road for you? Every moment is the right time to make a turn and go another direction.
Think about where you want to be tomorrow and beyond. Is what you are doing today going to take you where you want to go? If not, make the turn, if yes, keep on traveling.
We all make turns in our life by mistake (bad choices). Instead of getting angry with yourself, forgive yourself and turn around. Bad choice does not make you a bad person.
Husband & Father | Life, Relationship & Business Strategist | Bestselling Author | Motivational Speaker.
The following is directly from Mr. Tony Gaskins site:Tony Gaskins
“Tony A. Gaskins Jr., the son of a former pastor, was raised in a loving home along with a younger sister in a small central Florida town where most people believed that there were only a few avenues one could take in life. The common belief was that one could either end up overworked and underpaid, sell drugs or become a professional athlete. Tony escaped the cycle that entrapped so many of his peers and was awarded a full collegiate football scholarship. It was in college where Tony would run into trouble. All on his own for the first time and 1,000 miles from home, Tony found himself in a mess. Women became his biggest vice, closely followed by the lure of fast money. Tony began selling drugs from his dorm room and stealing on weekends while juggling women somewhere in between. After three years of barely staying afloat in his responsibilities as a student athlete, his coach decided to release him from the team. One might think that this circumstance would have been a clear wakeup call, but Tony was unreceptive. Instead, he moved back to Florida and continued to sell drugs and juggle women. He was living like the Prodigal Son, ignoring his natural gifts that were waiting to be unleashed. It wasn’t long after relocating to Tampa, Florida that Tony would cross paths with a young lady who would influence positive change in his life. She later became his wife. Tony was trying to balance his lifestyle of selling drugs and living a lie while keeping his wife. That balancing act wouldn’t sustain for too long. At 23 years old, Tony was married and had a newborn son who arrived 10 weeks early and weighed only two pounds at birth. Tony decided to give drug dealing one last shot after a long hiatus. He was desperate to find a way to provide for his new family. This time would be the last. No less than a few weeks in his risky lifestyle, Tony’s wife decided she’d had enough and she left him. To add insult to injury, Tony was robbed two days later by a group of local enemies. Tony found himself grappling with $30,000 in debt, poor credit and nothing to call his own, a marriage that was hanging on by a thread and a son in the intensive care unit. It was at this point that Tony finally realized the error of his ways. He fell on his face and cried out to God. He rededicated his life to Christ and vowed to forever live a life of service from that day forward. Although there would be trying times and stumbling blocks in the road, Tony kept his word to God.”
Amazing, inspiring, fun, friend making, friend supporting, contact making uplifting empowering trip. Lots of love, laughter, people full of life.
Welcome to L.A.
First time flying since 9-11.
My flight to L.A. was so early, my flight left 20 minutes before the baggage check in staff were to open.
With it being an early flight and the airport two hours away, I took Mom’s suggestion and found a hotel that allowed me to leave my car at the hotel and shuttle me to and from the airport.
TSA experience: Actually pretty decent: Thanks to several people I know, who do fly, and who gave great advice. It also made it easier to have a carry-on only. No wait for bags at baggage claim. Overall, flight to and from were fine. TSA wait time both ways were approx 10 minutes. As far as flying, I have always been fine with the actual flying, Overall flying experience, since I had not flown since before 9-11 and TSA, it was fine.
Lesson from Flying and TSA:
My fears and preconceived ideas on TSA were unfounded. Yes, at certain times, the line can be long, however, agree or disagree that TSA should be in operation or the current rules in place, they are here. And once we accept that and most people know, and follow the rules, going thru TSA is one more step in the process to flying.
Staying with friends vs. staying at the hotel.
Traffic in L.A. is crazy. Driving from the hotel to Billionaire’s office would have been a logistical nightmare and waste of time to reconnect every day. Billionaire was kind to offer a free place to stay. Benefits: Money saver, allows for more time to be spent with connect with more people.
Great friends are a blessing and add to your wealth and I am definitely blessed and wealthy. I was able to meet many wonderful people in person, spend time with and get to know. To all the people I met and spent time with in L.A., I thank your love and kindness.
Meeting my cousin: 6 years and a trip to L.A.: It was a true blessing to meet with McKenzie again. She is a sweet lady and her energy warms the room. My true blessing and gratitude was introducing McKenzie and Billionaire. Both are doing incredible work to help kids. Check out Playworks.org. I believe they can and will work together in the future.
Time moves quickly. Appreciate family; reach out to them, whether they respond often or not. Let them know someone cares for them. Send them a note of inspiration and saying you care. Have no expectation of contact in return. As we walk thru life and meet people, let us connect people who we believe may be able to uplift and support one another.
Birthday Party / Launch Party:
Billionaire P.A. is amazing. It was his birthday party and a party to launch his newest short film / music video. It was way more than your typical birthday party. He hosted a “Wealthy Wednesday’ event which is very inspirational and supportive. “Wealthy Wednesday” events are where you tell what you’re doing to execute your dream. It also is a great way to connect with people who can and will support you and whom you can support. There were speakers and singers. There was a 16 yo DJ who also was given the spotlight to sing (which was being a singer is one. And sing he did. Look for more from PJ on the future.
One of the best features: after speaking your dream, Billionaire asks what you need to help you live your dream. Then, asks everyone in attendance, if there is anyone with those skill sets. It is up to you to connect with those people.
I told my story of how Billionaire and I met, how I came to support him, speak my dream, and how I am executing my dream. Standing in front of a group of people and speaking is outside my comfort zone. We only grow outside out comfort zone.
“With God at my back and Billionaire and Wealthy Minds at my front, I can only stand upright and move forward.” Robert Overstreet
The energy is incredible, powerful, uplifting, full of love. It used to be difficult for me to walk up to people, introduce myself and start a conversation. Thanks to Billionaire’s Wealthy Minds events, they have given me the courage to introduce myself and improve my networking skills.
Driving around L.A. with Billionaire preparing for the party gave me a great appreciation for all the hard work that takes place behind the scenes. He was kind to tell me every time we were in another town in L.A. Actually, I stayed confused to the exact location all day. I did periodically use the GPS on my phone to give me an idea. It was a lot of work, yet, it was fun hanging out with him. He had fun driving thru as many different towns as possible so that I can say I was in every town around L.A.
Things that make you go hmmm… While running around L.A. with billionaire gathering cakes, supplies, and organizing people for the party, something happened that made me stop and catch my breath.
One of the many addresses we stopped was “1942”.
Later in the evening, we stopped by the music studio, where he found the other DJ to work his party. While there, we met a young couple who were recently married. Their wedding date: “August 8th”.
Mr. Zo Williams is genuine, a good man with a beautiful heart and soul. Also, I am honored to have met Bobby Glanton-Smith, Hassan-Karim McCullough (founder of OUI Juice), and Chris Purnell. I listened / watched “The Zo What? Morning Show” live from the green room. I have great respect for all that Zo and his crew are doing to improve humanity. They take on all types of topics and go where many are afraid to go. I had a good time meeting Zo and the crew at the studio and see where the show is recorded.
Lesson: Reaffirms why I support Zo and his mission.
Friendships / Relationships:
Billionaire P.A. and I connected thru his passion and company he created “Wealthy Minds”. I have an extreme amount of love and respect for Billionaire for living his dream of motivating and inspiring all people to live their dream and to teach them the power of a wealthy mind. There have been many who have left the life of negativity, many keep on walking, it is the exception who are reaching back and helping the rest of us. Billionaire is exceptional!! I am proud to call him friend and brother.
Life is fun walking around town with Billionaire. Our friendship is confusing to many (being of different races and our age difference). I like to believe that although people are shocked, people are inspired. When we live with an open heart and open mind, we will be a amazed and blessed at the people with whom we connect.
We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Once we get past the outside and connect with people for what’s on the inside, we attract and connect with beautiful people around the world.
The reactions are funny, our friendship is a great example that when we open our hearts and minds, we open up the possibility to some fantastic friendships. Billionaire and I like to tell people we are brothers (brothers from another mother) and ask people if they see the family resemblance. The look on people’s face is priceless.
“We all come from different walks of life, that doesn’t mean we can’t walk together”. Billionaire P.A.
Billionaire made a statement about relationships that is spot on, that made total sense, and really made things clear for me.
Each person you meet, work your way back (he said 10 people) through how you met that person. As you realize you meet quality people because of one person in particular, you will value that person’s relationship even more.
Completely explains why I value my relationship more and feel a strong bond, friendship, and appreciation with Zo Williams and Billionaire P.A.
I appreciate Billionaire for making the choice to not schedule anything the two days following the party, so we could hang out and have fun.
Most importantly he took a day for himself. Billionaire deserved the time off. He does so much for so many, it was good to watch him relax.
And I appreciate him and Serrano for showing me around L.A.
They took me to numerous places (Hollywood blvd, Santa Monica Pier, Mel’s Diner, The Grove), to name a few. I’ll have to go back for more.
I am thankful for all the people I met, spent time with, getting together with different ones and being shown around and just having a really good time. As I grow thru the years, it does not matter what we do or where we are, I find the most fun in being with people with good hearts and souls.
Thank you everyone who I saw, met, made friends with, hung out with, who gave me a place to stay. Thanks for the love, laughter, positive energy, inspiration, and the great times!!!
You are where you are because of all the places you have been. Are you happy with where you are? Are you on the right road for you? Every moment is the right time to make a turn and go another direction.
Think about where you want to be tomorrow and beyond. Is what you are doing today going to take you where you want to go? If not, make the turn, if yes, keep on traveling.
We all make turns in our life by mistake (bad choices). Instead of getting angry with yourself, forgive yourself and turn around. Bad choice does not make you a bad person.
Hello I am Julon Shelton I am a Biloxi, MS native that resides in Augusta, GA. I grew up in a military family both parents were in the military. My family was big on family, we always are there for each other. As a young girl I participated in tap dancing, but as I grew older I developed a love for dance. Watching my daughter; who dances for Rehoboth Worship Center’s Victory and Triumph Dancers, it inspired me to teach other kids how to dance.
The Dream I speak into Existence is:
I dream that one day I will start a Praise and Worship dance studio that offers all styles, and genre of dance. Also, dedicated to teaching young girls and boys how to stay encouraged and inspired and to give them an outlet through dance. The dance team will focus on praise and worship and inspirational dance music. This clean style of dance expression will make the parent proud, and also build up the esteem of the participant and audience of the participants. I eventually want to build on this to have a community center focused around Art. Our schools here in Augusta have no funded art classes and in some cases, some schools lost their art program. I hope I will be able to bring the spirit of Art to the community from my center. I later want to build on this to have services to help mothers and fathers, as well as provide programs to help with job placement, and implement a program for people who want to learn a new skill. I want my center to grow and expand on different levels. I want to inspire people that it is never too late to find their dream and speak it to existence.
Julon’s is currently working hard on the first part of her dream:
I am first working on finding a building where I can teach dance classes for a reasonable price or a building, or space where I can teach classes. After finding a space where I can operate I will then work on participants, after which we will work to have showcases and host competitions to help promote our dancers and the studio. We are accepting any items that people would like to donate and monetary donations all will help the starting process of this dream. At this moment I am still in the process of trying to purchase a building or rent a space to actually have classes.If you want to sign your child or teen up for dance please feel free to contact me at any of the numbers below, email, or Facebook. If you would like to show support, have items to donate or would like to help in any capacity, please contact Julon. All assistance is appreciated.
Are you proud of what people see when they look into your window?
Are the shades to your window open? Are you making eye contact?
Look people in the eyes, let them look into your window. Share the love you have for your fellow man and let them know there are kind people.
If you are not making eye contact, are you ashamed of something within yourself and afraid what others will see? At any stage in life, we can clean out the rooms and closets within our soul. There are people willing to assist cleaning your house. It’s up to you to do the actual work.
We are all at different stages in our life. No one’s house is clean all the time nor clean 100%. Believe in yourself, bad choices don’t make you a bad person. All choices have consequences. We can learn from them all.
Turn the knowledge you learn from each consequence into a rock and use your rocks of knowledge to build your walkway to a better life.
8 days, 5 days, 3000 miles, an outstanding trip and a lot packed in a short period of time.
Inspiring, fun, full of positive energy, hard work, tiring, friendships, family.
It is Always a blessing to support my friend and brother Billionaire of Wealthy Minds because the positive impact he is having on young lives and adults, which is powerful. He and his team are world changers. Also, I meet more inspirational people and make great friends. Reconnected with Mia, made new friends Himyo and DeAndre. Met some amazing kids.
Finally meet Andre, his wife and family in person. A beautiful family. It was an adventure connecting with them, definitely glad I did. Blessed to call them friends. It is possible to make friends thru social media. I have made several, talking with several over the phone. Billionaire was the first, and Andre and his family are the first family I met in person. I consider myself blessed to have all these good friends.
Spent time with family helping my 90 yo grandmother move into assisted living. She says it’s temporary. She told me to carry her things back in the house as quick as they were carrying them out of the house. Told her I couldn’t do that. I may have been added to her list of troublemakers. Love her too much and I have faith she will do fine.
Internal selfie – I learned from DeAndre, the credit belongs to a 14 yo.- Write down what your experienced during your during and your feelings and thoughts. I think of it like an extended form of a diary. It’s more than what you did. It’s what you learned from what you did.
What I learned on this trip. The value of relationships. There are numerous types of relationships, all the way from strangers or barely knowing another person to friends you consider brothers/sisters.
Strangers: Most people will return kindness when you initiate it. Many people have kindness to give, today’s world has placed a caution sticker over their heart. Help restore faith, hope, and love in humanity one heart at a time. Next time you see someone you know or don’t know be the first to speak, say hi and how are you and most often they will speak in kind. At minimum you will receive a smile.
Friends you trust, always support you, and appreciate all you do for them, you are willing to go the extra mile to support them. That is why I drove the 5 hours to support Billionaire. The impact he is having on young lives and adults alike is a positive ripple effect on the world.
Family: the ones who showed up to help my grandma lived the farthest. Cousins that lived closer came to the party, ate the free food and cake. Accept that which you have no control. It is up to each of us to do what is on our heart, mind, and soul that is right for us. We’re responsible only four ourselves.
Overall, it was a strengthening of existing relationships, creating new relationships. and a practice in kindness to all people my path crossed on the roads and in the hotels.
The Billionaire P.A. is an amazing young man who pulled his way up from a life of crime, negativity and selfishness. When Billionaire P.A. became homeless, he knew something had to give. He started talking with God and knew in his heart their was more in life and he could do better. During this time of being homeless, he starting writing quotes of inspiration for himself and sticking them to the roof of his truck.
He was able to save enough money to create his first t-shirt with one of his positive messages. He stood on the street corner and sold his first shirt, then another, and another. The thought that people would actually support him inspired him even more. He created more shirts with positive messages. The more positive energy he shared, the more came back to him. This inspired him to dedicate his life of motivating others.
He continues to live his passion of inspiration by giving motivational speeches to all ages, inspiring many lives, and has a goal to touch a billion lives. He now has his own website to sell his shirts and is very creative in other ways to inspire and motivate.
Empowering youth to speak their dreams.
Teaching youth and adults about the power of positive living.
Traveling the country and soon the world to speak to youth and adults.
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“Sponsor A Kid’s Dream is when a customer or corporation sponsors any amount of money to Wealthy Minds Clothing. Once we receive the sponsorship amount we give that exact amount of Wealthy Minds Clothing products to kids/youth at one of Billionaire P.A.’s motivational productions. The child will stand and speak their dreams into existence and receive a “I SPEAK DREAMS INTO EXISTENCE” shirt to inspire them to pursue their dreams. Customer(s)/Client(s) are pretty much purchasing products to give to youth that do not have the funds to pay for our clothing.
For example, you sponsor $100 and we, Wealthy Minds gives 4 kids a Wealthy Minds “I SPEAK DREAMS INTO EXISTENCE” shirt.”
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Tenets for a Wealthy Mind
After hearing The Billionaire P.A. speak, I was inspired to create the following Tenets, based on his message he is sharing with the world.
The “Tenets for a Wealthy Mind” was created so I can carry with the message of a Wealthy Mind with me. Then, I learned it is an easy way to share the message with others. I carry copies and hand out so that others may have a reminder of also. Print and share.
I am proud to support The Billionaire P. A. Being in front of the camera is new to me. I stepped out of my comfort zone because I am a strong supporter of my brother and friend +Billionaire PA This video is who I am, why I support him and why I believe you should too. Thank you.
March 11, 2014 Who rapes the rapist: a sobering look into what it takes to fully recover from sexual assault, unraveling the mysteries of femininity and Zo grades the ladies’ truth. Commercial free. Running time 01:46:58 Download: MediaFire or HulkShare
February 25, 2014 GENDER WARS: a woman’s perspective on how society is ATTACKING MANHOOD!! Does the world still need a feminist movement? Has feminist beliefs pussified an entire generation of men, if so in what ways? From a woman’s perspective do you BELIEVE that Masculinity is under social attack? Join Zo, Margo, Brandi, and Whitney along with guest the “Men’s Advocate” DT Linda Gross as they discuss feminism in America. Running time 01:52:14 Download: MediaFire or HulkShare
February 18, 2014 The Voice Of Reason show is resurrected on RMCONLIVE.COM, The Dawn of the Side Chick: A deeper look into society’s fascination with the emerging relationship status of side chick; with guests Whitney Taber, Brandi Magee, and Margo Hudson. Commercial free. Running time 1:45:32 Download: MediaFire or HulkShare
In Order To Fix Our Families, We Must First Fix Our Women. Guests Tina Farris, Filmmaker/Activist Tim Alexander and Researcher/Writer Setu. Commercial free. Running time 01:40:22 Download: MediaFire or HulkShareI
The Relationship Password: a deeper look into trust, technology, privacy, intimacy and our personal space. Callers chime in with stories where technology brought forth embarrassment and conflict in their relationships. Commercial free. Running time 01:47:31 Download: MediaFire or HulkShare
The Black Man’s Guide For Escaping The Legal Matrix: How to keep our young black men out of jail. Guests Author/Judge William L. Dawson and Author Manny Phillips. Commercial free. Running time 01:47:19 Download: MediaFire or HulkShare
The Daddy/Daughter Dynamic: A deeper look into the impact of the father/daughter relationship. Guests John Price, Author Queen Afua & Lewis Dix. Commercial free. Running time 01:48:44 Download: MediaFire or HulkShare
This has been a full, productive, and interesting week.
I am blessed with a good career. The work load has been feast or famine most of the time I have had this job. Starting right before Christmas and into now, it proves to be feast times again.
When you love what you do for a living and get paid for it, life becomes even more of a blessing and happiness comes your way.
Yes, happiness is an attitude, and I choose to be happy and find the happiness and positive side of things in life. However, one of my lessons in life I am still working, is working with negative people. In my personal life, it is easy because I choose who to be around. In the office, negative people can make the day exhausting. Fortunately, the project I am working, the people I am working with are all good energy people. I avoid negative people when possible. Negative people will try to monopolize your time if you let them.
I make an effort to avoid without being rude to negative people in the office. There is one who will wait till the end of the day and if you let her will ruin what was a great day for you. Working with negative people is challenging.
Try to say as little as possible. Avoid any interaction as possible and if you do have to interact, make it as short as possible. One of my pet peeves is liars and as much as I would like to call them out, they know they are lying and will not change their lie to a truth when caught. It is wasted breath. I do admit to calling racists out and I have called liars out.
I am too blessed and thankful for health, job (career), and the good positive people of friends and in the office to let the negative ones get me down.
Do you make “new year resolutions”? If so, what are your reasons for making “new year resolutions”?
Is it out of guilt about not living a life that is more responsible and respective of yourself? We all fall short and can do better.
Any time during the year, we can making new resolutions that will improve our life.
A new calendar year provides us all the opportunity to evaluate our lives, regardless if we make new resolutions or not. If we are not genuinely ready to make the changes in our life, then, we will be more successful if we wait to make the resolutions.
How to be more successful with your follow thru on resolutions.
Make a list of things you want to change “new resolutions”.
Develop a plan for each resolution.
Separate each resolution into its own category of easiest to implement (incorporate into your life so it feels like a “normal” part of your day) and maintain.
Implement each resolution one at a time.
Slowly, thru ought the year, incorporate each resolution into your life.
Trying to make all your changes at once can be overwhelming and frustrating. Once you have integrated the first resolution into your life and your life is feeling “normal” with the new resolution, implement the next one.
It is ok to stop a resolution if it is not working just right. The action plan may need adjusting. As long as you are moving forward, you are moving and to be commended. We are all a work in progress.
May you discover the person you want to be and are meant to be.
“Turn your past experiences into stepping stones and not tombstones.” Robert Overstreet
Going out with friends New Year’s Eve and / or going to be in a crowd?
A lesson I learned from years ago “back in the day before mobile phones” set a designated place to meet if you get separated and store the location in your phone’s map as a favorite. If you become separated from your friends, send a text to your friend(s) that you are headed to the meeting place. Once there, stay put until everyone shows up.
Three times, I have celebrated New Year’s in New Orleans.
First Trip to New Orleans: I went by myself and met friends who lived there. We became separated; I ended up friending a local, and he gave me a place to stay for the night. Then, I reconnected with friends the next morning. I took a taxi to their house.
Second Trip to New Orleans: I went with a group of friends and we all stayed in a hotel 15 miles from the French Quarter. There was so much activity and people headed to the French Quarter New Year’s Eve that it took over 1 hour to get a taxi to the hotel. There were several people from the hotel waiting for a taxi; we shared the taxi with other people. It was close to 11:00p when we made it to the French Quarter.
Third Trip to New Orleans: I went with a group of friends and we all stayed in a hotel on Canal Street at the end of Bourbon Street. The total cost was the same as staying out a distance and taking a taxi. Being separated was not a concern, we all wondered back to the hotel when we became tired and all worked out well.
Technology: I wish we had texting when I was in my 20s. We have it now and I am thankful for technology. It is easy to stay in contact with your friends.
Overall, it was quite fun: I wish everyone the opportunity to make happy memories in their youth that they can look back up on and smile. Of course, in having fun we all do a few things that are not completely wise. However, looking back now I can say those were teachable moments.
As we progress through our 20s, 30s, 40s, and now 50s, we look at life differently.
If you look at life the same in your 50s as in your 20s, you are not growing.
I give thanks for surviving my foolish times and being able to share my stories (minus gritty details).
Whatever your party plans (or no party plans) be safe and have a Happy New Year!!!
Never feel obligated to give a gift you cannot afford. Gift giving to people we love is a beautiful thing. People who love you will understand and appreciate a gift closer to your heart, and one that you can afford, whether it is from a fancy box store or handmade or somewhere in between.
Giving more than you can afford places your mind in a negative place and you are sending negative energy with the gift to the receiver. We are all one human race, and connected in this world thru energy and the energy that surrounds you plays a very important part in how your life will play out.
Giving the best gifts require you to truly know the person; their likes, dislikes, their passion, what currently is going on in their life. Find a gift that helps promote their passion or a gift that will make their life better.
A simple “Thank You and Appreciation”: I always appreciate a hand written note or card that simply says, “I love you, appreciate you, thank you for all you have done for me.” Something that comes from the heart. When thanking a person or giving a compliment, be specific, tell the person why you are appreciative of them, and give an example of something they have done for you that touched you emotionally.
When the gift comes from the heart, the gift is the right size.
Gifts are an expression of loving and appreciation.
I loved going to my Grandmother's home for Thanksgiving when I was growing up. My grandmother had few worldly possessions and her house was small, old, and drafty, however, she had the most important thing of all…unconditional love. The minute I walked thru the door into my Grandmother's home, I always felt a blanket of energy, which wrapped me like a warm blanket of love.
Everyone received a hug when you entered her home. In addition, before you left. I grew up in a family where everyone hugged everyone, and I was fortunate it was in a time of innocence where anyone could touch anyone without anything-questionable going on. The touch was about people connecting with people. As humans, we need touch.
My parents and grandparents were great examples of living to give and helping people in need. This I believe came from growing up poor and having to do without. They learned empathy thru their struggles. Giving thanks and being grateful invokes a loving, kind, and giving spirit.
Our family has had its share of interesting characters as most do. Every family has people with distinct personalities, being mature requires getting along with people who think differently than you. Not once, do I remember any act of violence or mean spirit towards other family members. We may not agree with each other all the time, my family was kind when we were together in person.
My wish for you is the happiest of Thanksgivings and be kind to each other.
Time passes very quickly, especially as we get older and take on more responsibility as adults. As one senior citizen told me when I was 17, “Young man, don’t rush growing up, because each year will go by faster than the next.” Fast-forward 34 years…
Make the most of every minute, every age is to be cherished (for all of us, from birth to end of life).
Especially when children are involved. Focus on this moment and every stage of your children(s) life. They grow up quickly. You can make more money after you spend it, you can NOT make more time after you spend it. Focus on this moment right NOW and make it your best.
Live life so when you reach the end of life, you have no regrets, and your memories put a smile on your face.
My friends and I get together for what we call "Meet and Greet". We meet and greet each other with support, love, and laughter. Everyone needs someone to lean on and to enjoy lots of laughter. We meet at different restaurants to keep it fresh and try different foods.
These friends came into my life following a shift in my attitude, thinking, and looking at life in a positive light.
True wealth is not to be measured by the physical and material things of this world. All of which can be taken away instantly. (e.g., storms, economy, etc.)
True wealth cannot be taken away. A great education, the ability to unconditionally love, and live with an open mind and heart. The ability to listen to a fellow human being in good times and bad. The shear ability to connect with fellow people on this planet in a loving and kind manner. God blessed you with True Wealth, it is up to you to understand it's power and use it wisely.
Everything that is happening to you in this moment is a result of all your thought processes and actions preceding this moment.
We are all-human and sometimes do not have the best thoughts, it is ok. Keep in mind. When you stay too long in the place of negative thoughts, you WILL see things around you happen that you do not like. Instead of getting upset and frustrated, take this opportunity to slide to the positive side of life.
When you are happy with what is happening to you, then, you have made good positive choices and make your best effort to stay on the positive side of life.
True wealth ultimately is the “Power of your Mind”. When you realize what happens to you in this world is the result of the decisions you have made in your life. When you understand that you can change your life by making the choice to change the way you think about what happens to you, you will realize your Mind is Wealthy.
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” Unknown Author
"Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghost of yesterday. Holding a grudge & harboring anger/resentment is poison to the soul. Get even with people…but not those who have hurt us, forget them, instead get even with those who have helped us." Steve Maraboli (Life, the Truth, and Being Free)
"Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean." Maya Angelou
"Anger … it's a paralyzing emotion … you can't get anything done. People sort of think it's an interesting, passionate, and igniting feeling — I don't think it's any of that — it's helpless … it's absence of control — and I need all of my skills, all of the control, all of my powers … and anger doesn't provide any of that — I have no use for it whatsoever.”
[Interview with CBS radio host Don Swaim, September 15, 1987.]" Toni Morrison
"Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love." Leo Buscaglia
“I believe life is constantly testing us for our level of commitment, and life's greatest rewards are reserved for those who demonstrate a never-ending commitment to act until they achieve. This level of resolve can move mountains, but it must be constant and consistent. As simplistic as this may sound, it is still the common denominator separating those who live their dreams from those who live in regret.” Anthony Robbins
“Every problem is a gift – without problems we would not grow.” Anthony Robbins
“I've come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.” Anthony Robbins
“The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of your relationships.” Anthony Robbins
“It is not what we get. But who we become, what we contribute … that gives meaning to our lives.” Anthony Robbins
"To argue with a man who has renounced the use and authority of reason is like administering medicine to the dead." Thomas Paine
"To repeat what others have said, requires education, to challenge it, requires brains." Mary Pettibone Poole "You cannot reason people out of a position that they did not reason themselves into.” Ben Goldacre, Bad Science
Science“ Discussion is an exchange of knowledge; argument an exchange of ignorance.” Robert Quillen
"One of the first things a relationship therapist learns is that couples argue to burn up energy that could be used for something else. In fact, arguments often serve the purpose of using up energy, so that the couple do not have to take the courageous, creative leap into an unknown they fear. Arguing serves the function of being a zone of familiarity into which you can retreat when you are afraid of making a creative breakthrough." Gay Hendricks
"Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can." Dalai Lama XIV
"I asked the Zebra,
are you black with white stripes?
Or white with black stripes?
And the zebra asked me,
Are you good with bad habits?
Or are you bad with good habits?
Are you noisy with quiet times?
Or are you quiet with noisy times?
Are you happy with some sad days?
Or are you sad with some happy days?
Are you neat with some sloppy ways?
Or are you sloppy with some neat ways?
And on and on and on and on and on and on he went.
I’ll never ask a zebra about stripes…again."
— Shel Silverstein
"But I believe good things happen everyday. I believe good things happen even when bad things happen. And I believe on a happy day like today, we can still feel a little sad. And that's life, isn't it?" Gabrielle Zevin (Elsewhere)
"Live your life each day as you would climb a mountain. An occasional glance towards the summit keeps the goal in mind, but many beautiful scenes are to be observed from each new vantage point." Melchert, Harold V
"The most beautiful thing in the world is, precisely, the conjunction of learning and inspiration. Oh, the passion for research and the joy of discovery!" Wanda Landowska
"Let the beauty we love become the good we do." Rumi
"Amidst the worldly comings and goings, observe how endings become beginnings." Lao Tzu
"Every morning, when we wake up, we have twenty-four brand-new hours to live. What a precious gift! We have the capacity to live in a way that these twenty-four hours will bring peace, joy, and happiness to ourselves and others." Thich Nhat Hanh
"The darkest night is often the bridge to the brightest tomorrow." Jonathan Lockwood Huie
“Better keep yourself clean and bright. You are the window through which you must see the world.“ George Bernard Shaw
“Every tomorrow has two handles. We can take hold of it with the handle of anxiety or the handle of faith.“ Henry Ward Beecher
“Some things have to be believed to be seen.“ Mark Victor Hansen
“Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life because you become what you believe." Oprah Winfrey
“Maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had, and what you've learned from them, and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.” Unknown
"You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging." Brené Brown
"Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart." Brené Brown
"Nostalgia is also a dangerous form of comparison. Think about how often we compare our lives to a memory that nostalgia has so completely edited that it never really existed." Brené Brown
"Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change." Brené Brown
"Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light." Brené Brown
“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands.” Anne Frank
“In their innocence, very young children know themselves to be light and love. If we will allow them, they can teach us to see ourselves the same way. ” Michael Jackson
“Your children are the greatest gift God will give to you, and their souls the heaviest responsibility He will place in your hands. Take time with them, teach them to have faith in God. Be a person in whom they can have faith. When you are old, nothing else you've done will have mattered as much.” Lisa Wingate
“Anyone who does anything to help a child in his life is a hero to me. ” Fred Rogers
"If you are still breathing maybe it is not such a bad day after all…" Darren E. Laws
“A baby is God's opinion that the world should go on.” Carl Sandburg
“I would be most content if my children grew up to be the kind of people who think decorating consists mostly of building enough bookshelves.” Anna Quindlen
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” Dalai Lama XIV
“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” Dalai Lama XIV
If you can cultivate the right attitude, your enemies are your best spiritual teachers because their presence provides you with the opportunity to enhance and develop tolerance, patience and understanding.” Dalai Lama XIV
“World peace must develop from inner peace. Peace is not just mere absence of violence. Peace is, I think, the manifestation of human compassion.” Dalai Lama XIV
“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.” Deepak Chopra
“Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.” Deepak Chopra
“Even when you think you have your life all mapped out, things happen that shape your destiny in ways you might never have imagined. ” Deepak Chopra
“If you’re really spiritual, then you should be totally independent of the good and the bad opinions of the world…you should have faith in yourself.” Deepak Chopra
“People are doing the best that they can from their own level of consciousness.” Deepak Chopra
"To acquire true self power you have to feel beneath no one, be immune to criticism and be fearless.” Deepak Chopra
"The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire." Ferdinand Foch
"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." Alan Wilson Watts
"Many of us are afraid to follow our passions, to pursue what we want most because it means taking risks and even facing failure. But to pursue your passion with all your heart and soul is success in itself. The greatest failure is to have never really tried." Robyn Allen
"Protect your enthusiasm from the negativity and fear of others. Never decide to do nothing just because you can only do little. Do what you can. You would be surprised at what "little" acts have done for our world.” Steve Maraboli (Life, the Truth, and Being Free)
Homosexuality is god's way of insuring that the truly gifted aren't burdened with children. ~Sam Austin
You could move. ~Abigail Van Buren, "Dear Abby," in response to a reader who complained that a gay couple was moving in across the street and wanted to know what he could do to improve the quality of the neighborhood
The next time someone asks you, "Hey, howdja get to be a homosexual anyway?" tell them, "Homosexuals are chosen first on talent, then interview… then the swimsuit and evening gown competition pretty much gets rid of the rest of them." ~Karen Williams
If horse racing is the sport of kings, then drag racing must be the sport of queens. ~Bert R. Sugar
Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth. ~Benjamin Disraeli
“The pressures on gay teens can be overwhelming–to keep secrets, tell lies, deny who you are, and try to be who you're not. Remember: you are special and worth being cared about, loved, and accepted just as you are. Never, ever let anyone convince you otherwise.” Alex Sanchez
"Never worry about numbers. Help one person at a time and always start with the person nearest you." Mother Teresa
"A good head and good heart are always a formidable combination. But when you add to that a literate tongue or pen, then you have something very special." Nelson Mandela
“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” Kent M. Keith
“This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving. I choose to live life this way. I want to live my life in such a way that when I get out of bed in the morning, the devil says, 'aw sh*t, he's up!” Steve Maraboli
“I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.” Steve Maraboli
“Every single time you help somebody stand up you are helping humanity rise.” Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
“Every sunrise is an invitation for us to arise and brighten someone's day.” Richelle E. Goodrich
"Focus on your inner beauty. Outer beauty will draw people to you, inner beauty will keep them in your presence." Robert Overstreet
“Peace is the number one beautiful ornament you can wear, I really believe that. They say you should always wear a smile, but I don't believe that you should "always" wear a smile, seriously, you're going to look stupid! But peace, you should always carry peace within you, its the most beautifying thing you could ever have or do. Peace makes your heart beautiful and it makes you look beautiful, too. You want to have perfect physical posture when you stand, sit, and walk, and peace is the perfect posture of the soul, really. Try perfect posture outside as well as inside. Peace creates grace and grace gives peace.” C. JoyBell C.
“Nothing external to you has any power over you.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart." …live in the question.” Rainer Maria Rilke
"Good works is giving to the poor and the helpless, but divine works is showing them their worth to the One who matters.”Criss Jami
“Having inner peace means committing to letting go of self-criticism and self-doubt.” Sanaya Roman
"We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” Maya Angelou
“If you treat an individual as he is, he will remain how he is. But if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be.” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” Gautama Buddha
"Alwaystell the truth, use kind words, keep your promises, giggle and laugh, stay happy and be positive, love one another, always be grateful, forgiveness is mandatory, give thanks for everything, try new things, say please and thank you, smile." SearchQuotes
“If you celebrate your differentness, the world will, too. It believes exactly what you tell it—through the words you use to describe yourself, the actions you take to care for yourself, and the choices you make to express yourself. Tell the world you are one-of-a-kind creation who came here to experience wonder and spread joy. Expect to be accommodated. (11)” Victoria Moran, Lit From Within: Tending Your Soul For Lifelong Beauty
“How would your life be different if…You stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day…You look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey.” Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
“By associating with wise people you will become wise yourself”. Menander
“Govern thy life and thoughts as if the whole world were to see the one, and read the other”. Thomas Fuller
"Dream of what you most enjoy. Go where you want to go. Be whom you want to be. You have but one life to achieve what you want to Achieve….. " Author Unknown
"Labels are for filing. Labels are for clothing. Labels are not for people." Martina Navratilova
“Life is a song. Love is the music.” Anonymous
“Life is a bowl of cherries. Some cherries are rotten while others are good; it’s your job to throw out the rotten ones and forget about them while you enjoy eating the ones that are good! There are two kinds of people: those who choose to throw out the good cherries and wallow in all the rotten ones, and those who choose to throw out all the rotten ones and savor all the good ones.” C. JoyBell C.
"They [dogs] never talk about themselves but listen to you while you talk about yourself, and keep up an appearance of being interested in the conversation.” Jerome K. Jerome
"The word 'listen' contains the same letters as the word 'silent'.” Alfred Brendel
"Listening is an attitude of the heart, a genuine desire to be with another which both attracts and heals. (attr to J. Isham)” Sura Hart
Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation
"When you listen, it's amazing what you can learn. When you act on what you've learned, it's amazing what you can change.” Audrey McLaughlin
"A friend asks, "Tell me one word which is significant in any kinds of relationship." Another friend says, "LISTEN!” Santosh Kalwar,Adventus
“Let your wisdom guide you
On your own personal journey
By listening to your heart
Your soul will be alight
And let you be
All that you are intended to be”
Karen Hackel, The Whisper of Your Soul
“Love affairs are for emotional sprinters; the pleasures of love are for the emotional marathoners.” Robertson Davies
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” Lao Tzu
“If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything.” Marilyn Monroe
“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness, errors, and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.” Anaïs Nin
Until we have seen someone's darkness, we don't really know who they are. Until we have forgiven someone's darkness, we don't really know what love is.” Marianne Williamson
“We can't look to the world to restore our worth; we're here to restore our worth to the world. The world outside us can reflect our glory, but it cannot create it. It cannot crown us. Only God can crown us, and he already has.” Marianne Williamson
“You have tremendous gifts to give; God sent them with you when you came to this earth. And while you might forget them, or doubt they exist, God does not forget and He will show them to you. As soon as your gifts are dedicated to His work, they will blossom. Chains that might have held you back for years will dissolve. And you will feel free. You will learn that your spirit is bigger than your circumstances, as soon as you put your spirit first.” Marianne Williamson, Everyday Grace: Having Hope, Finding Forgiveness And Making Miracles“
“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us.” Marianne Williamson
“I don't want to drive up to the pearly gates in a shiny sports car, wearing beautifully, tailored clothes, my hair expertly coiffed, and with long, perfectly manicured fingernails.
I want to drive up in a station wagon that has mud on the wheels from taking kids to scout camp.
I want to be there with a smudge of peanut butter on my shirt from making sandwiches for sick neighbor’s children.
I want to be there with a little dirt under my fingernails from helping to weed someone's garden.
I want to be there with children's sticky kisses on my cheeks and the tears of a friend on my shoulder.
I want the Lord to know I was really here and that I really lived.” Marjorie Pay Hinckley
“The trick is to enjoy life. Don't wish away your days, waiting for better ones ahead.” Marjorie Pay Hinckley
“Think about your particular assignment at this time in your life. It may be to get an education, it may be to rear children, it may be to be a grandparent, it may be to care for an relieve the suffering of someone you love, it may be to do a job in the most excellent way possible, it may be to support someone who has a difficult assignment of their own. Our assignments are varied and they change from time to time. Don't take them lightly. Give them your full heart and energy. Do them with enthusiasm. Do whatever you have to do this week with your whole heart and soul. To do less than this will leave you with an empty feeling.” Marjorie Pay Hinckley, Small and Simple Things
“As you create a home, don't get distracted with a lot of things that have no meaning for you or your family. Don't dwell on your failures, but think of your successes. Have joy in your home. Have joy in your children. Have joy in your husband. Be grateful for the journey.” Marjorie Pay Hinckley
"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." Friedrich Nietzsche
"When you find somebody you love, all the way through, and she loves you—even with your weaknesses, your flaws, everything starts to click into place. And if you can talk to her, and she listens, if she makes you laugh, and makes you think, makes you want, makes you see who you really are, and who you are is better, just better with her, you’d be crazy not to want to spend the rest of your life with her. (Carter Maguire)" Nora Roberts (Happy Ever After (Bride Quartet, #4))
"People always fall in love with the most perfect aspects of each other’s personalities. Who wouldn’t? Anybody can love the most wonderful parts of another person. But that’s not the clever trick. The really clever trick is this: Can you accept the flaws? Can you look at your partner’s faults honestly and say, ‘I can work around that. I can make something out of it.’? Because the good stuff is always going to be there, and it’s always going to pretty and sparkly, but the crap underneath can ruin you." Elizabeth Gilbert (Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage)
"Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation, and conversation must have a common basis, and between two people of widely different culture the only common basis possible is the lowest level." Oscar Wilde
“Usually, we believe that our pain is a misfortune that needs to be fixed, but in fact, all pain (physical, mental, and emotional) is a necessary step towards becoming conscious.” Eliza Mada Dalian
“Let me put it this way: You cannot live in the world without being in pain, spiritual and physical pain. We have developed mechanisms to deal with these pains, to overcome them somehow; Therapy, religion and spirituality, relationships, material success. All this can work, but also become a problem itself." David Foster Wallace
“Pain (any pain–emotional, physical, mental) has a message. The information it has about our life can be remarkably specific, but it usually falls into one of two categories: We would be more alive if we did more of this and Life would be more lovely if we did less of that. Once we get the pain's message, and follow its advice, the pain goes away.” Peter McWilliams
“Has not God chosen those who are pained in this world to inherit his paradise? For it is through suffering we understand our need for his righteous right hand. Indeed, our spiritual needs outweigh our physical ones. Blessed be the name of God.” Rae Carson, The Girl of Fire and Thorns
"My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style" Maya Angelou
"Whoever wants music instead of noise, joy instead of pleasure, soul instead of gold, creative work instead of business, passion instead of foolery, finds no home in this trivial world of ours." Hermann Hesse
"Passion has little to do with euphoria and everything to do with patience. It is not about feeling good. It is about endurance. Like patience, passion comes from the same Latin root: pati. It does not mean to flow with exuberance. It means to suffer." Mark Z. Danielewski (House of Leaves)
"By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it. The nonexistent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired." Franz Kafka
“In life one has a choice to take one of two paths: to wait for some special day – or to celebrate each special day.” Rasheed Ogunlaru
“Let each man take the path according to his capacity, understanding and temperament. His true guru will meet him along that path.” Sivananda Saraswati
“There are no wrong turnings. Only paths we had not known we were meant to walk.” Guy Gavriel Kay, Tigana
“Do not be afraid to walk the path that you must go just because you cannot see the end. The path becomes clearer as you continue to go on.” Tracy Allen
“Put your ego aside, listen to those crossing your path, they may hold the key you been looking for.” Martin Suarez
“There are many roads in this world that will guide you to pleasurable, fun, and exciting destinations that do not end in any form of lasting happiness. So before you step on an enticing path, figure out where it leads.” Richelle E. Goodrich
“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands.” Anne Frank
“There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you.” J.K. Rowling
“Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.” Barbara De Angelis
“Attack the evil that is within yourself, rather than attacking the evil that is in others.” Confucius
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.” Eckhart Tolle
“Time isn’t precious at all, because it is an illusion. What you perceive as precious is not time but the one point that is out of time: the Now. That is precious indeed. The more you are focused on time—past and future—the more you miss the Now, the most precious thing there is.” Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
“Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? what could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.” Eckhart Tolle
"An ordinary favor we do for someone or any compassionate reaching out may seem to be going nowhere at first, but may be planting a seed we can't see right now. Sometimes we need to just do the best we can and then trust in an unfolding we can't design or ordain." Sharon Salzberg
"If we make our goal to live a life of compassion and unconditional love, then the world will indeed become a garden where all kinds of flowers can bloom and grow." Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
"The light of unconditional love awakens the dormant seed potentials of the soul." John Welwood
"The heart is like a garden. It can grow compassion or fear, resentment or love. What seeds will you plant there?" Jack Kornfield
"Every thought is a seed. If you plant crab apples, don’t count on harvesting Golden Delicious." Bill Meyer
"Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." Marcel Proust
"True silence is the rest of the mind; it is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment." William Penn
"Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose." Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
"If you can't get quiet enough to hear yourself, your life is too loud." Terri Guillemets
"Some days, we just need to turn the quiet up." Dr. SunWolf
"Silence allows you to watch your mind and become aware of the thoughts that you may be acting on unconsciously. When you see the thoughts, you can make a conscious choice to act on the thought or change your mind, instead of going along with the noise. I have seen people who don't want to look at themselves keep going until something happens that makes them stop — a sickness or an accident — but it gives them that reflective, quiet space where they can face what is difficult in their mind. We each have a unique purpose to fulfill in this life and inklings can come in those quiet moments." Swami Radhananda
“Don't be ashamed to weep; 'tis right to grieve. Tears are only water, and flowers, trees, and fruit cannot grow without water. But there must be sunlight also. A wounded heart will heal in time, and when it does, the memory and love of our lost ones is sealed inside to comfort us.” Brian Jacques, Taggerung
“Failure to shed tears is a failure to live life fully. And the one thing that life requires of us all is to live it. Never be embarrassed by your ability to be alive.” Amy Neftzger, The Orphanage of Miracles
"Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears." John Lennon
“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.” Steve Maraboli
“If we didn't have strong feelings, how could we love or fight? When our flesh is cut, we bleed. When our heart is broken, we cry. There's nothing wrong with that. It only becomes a problem when it gets in the way of what you have to do. You can't crumble when others are counting on you.” Robert Liparulo, Watcher in the Woods
“The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you.” John E. Southard
“Well, most people would have said `thank you' after they'd been given help, and then I would have responded to that with `you're welcome'. I figured we'd skip straight to my part since social graces aren't your forte.” Heather James, Fire
“God gave you a gift of 84,600 seconds today. Have you used one of them to say thank you?” William Arthur Ward
“One can pay back the loan of gold, but one dies forever in debt to those who are kind.” Malayan Proverb
“A little "thank you" that you will say to someone for a "little favour" shown to you is a key to unlock the doors that hide unseen "greater favours". Learn to say "thank you" and why not?” Israelmore Ayivor
“Honor to the soldier and sailor everywhere, who bravely bears his country's cause. Honor, also, to the citizen who cares for his brother in the field and serves, as he best can, the same cause.” Abraham Lincoln
“Shame, isn’t it? That we only like our heroes out in the street when they are looking their best and their uniforms are ‘spit and polished,’ and not when they’re showing us the wounds they suffered on our behalf.” Jacqueline Winspear, Maisie Dobbs
“Have you ever stopped to ponder the amount of blood spilt, the volume of tears shed, the degree of pain and anguish endured, the number of noble men and women lost in battle so that we as individuals might have a say in governing our country? Honor the lives sacrificed for your freedoms. Vote.” Richelle E. Goodrich
"Success is achieved by developing our strengths, not by eliminating our weaknesses." Marilyn vos Savant
"I would encourage us all, African Americans, Asians, Latinos, Whites, Native Americans to study history. I long for the time when all the human history is taught as one history. I am stronger because you are stronger. I am weaker if you are weak. So we are more alike than we are unlike." Maya Angelou
“It's not that you should never love something so much that it can control you.It's that you need to love something that much so you can never be controlled. It's not a weakness. It's your best strength.” Patrick Ness, The Ask and the Answer
“To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.” Criss Jami
“A man’s spirit is free, but his pride binds him with chains of suffocation in a prison of his own insecurities” Jeremy Aldana
"Worrying is carrying tomorrow's load with today's strength- carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn't empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” Corrie ten Boom
“There is nothing that wastes the body like worry, and one who has any faith in God should be ashamed to worry about anything whatsoever.” Mahatma Gandhi
"Drag your thoughts away from your troubles… by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it." Mark Twain
"If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today." E. Joseph Cossman
"You can't wring your hands and roll up your sleeves at the same time." Pat Schroeder
Thru ought my life, I have heard the phrase many times from different people, and in joking, “It’s all in your head”. I now have a greater understanding and believe this to be true.
“What we think we become”.
We live our lives with thoughts in our head and we have to ask ourselves, when and where did these thoughts come from? Are they true? Do we believe them to be true because we have told ourselves the same story repeatedly? Are we living our best life? If we are not living our best life, it is because these thoughts and beliefs are not serving us in a manner in which supports us well.
Our words, thoughts, and beliefs have brought into our lives our current experiences.
We have the ability to change the direction of travel (our journey) in this life: by “CHOICE”, change our words, thoughts, and beliefs.
How do we change our words, thoughts, and beliefs?
Changing our words, thoughts, and beliefs requires us to become vulnerable.
Once we realize and accept we can have, and be where we want when we choose the best words, thoughts, and beliefs for our own self, we will choose growth over fear. Becoming vulnerable requires us to step outside our comfort zone and meet the opposites of our beliefs.
Start thinking what we DO want from life. Believe in ourselves that we CAN and DO deserve and learn and understand your beliefs.
Summary: You are where you are in life because of “what’s in your head” (your thoughts, words, and beliefs). To live your best life, you must change your thoughts, words, and beliefs, and doing so requires vulnerability. Step outside of your comfort zone, meet the opposite of your beliefs head on, and challenge all the thoughts you have in your head. Learn why you believe what you do. Change what is necessary to grow and live your best life.
Fall is one of my favorite times of year because the temperature hugs me just right. In addition, the colors of the changing leaves represent the beauty of God's love.
Every change of season into fall has that first morning when you carry the trash to the curb, the cool breeze taps you on the shoulder, "Oh, hi Mr. Friendly Fall, I see you have arrived!” Friendly Fall's visit is very enjoyable and time passes quickly during his visit. As Old Man Winter arrives, Mr. Friendly Fall heads back from whence he came.
My only sadness about fall is how it transitions quickly into winter. Old man winter can be like an unwanted house guest. His visit is nice and enjoyable for a short time. Once he has settled in, no matter what you do or say, Old Man Winter is on his own schedule. He will leave when he is ready.
In the meantime, I give thanks for my blessings to have a warm place to work, live, and a good car to travel everywhere necessary.
Good-bye summer, Hello Mr. Friendly Fall, you are welcome to stay around for as long as you would like.
Old Man Winter, when you arrive, feel to pack a light bag. It is not necessary to stay and keep me company. I will be fine.
I believe we all enter this world at different starting points. The challenge to the human experience is to learn empathy and unconditional love towards everyone. We ALL have the same equal value. God does not have favorite children, he loves us all equally.
Your life experiences (struggles and challenges) gives you a stronger understanding and respect for the great life you deserve.
Feel ashamed of your past? Forgive yourself. Making bad decision does not make you a bad person. Admitting your bad choices and owning up to them means you are growing and can be proud of yourself. Some are your choices and some are your environment. Let your past be your guide as to how NOT to live your life.
“Use your life experiences as stepping stones, not tombstones.” Robert Overstreet
ACCEPT it, OWN it, and MOVE on.
What DO you want your life to be? List your “DO WANTS”:
Take your energy and time spent on creating your own problems and the negative aspect of your life and refocus on the positive. Instead of saying, thinking and feeling what you do NOT want from life. Say what you DO want.
Change your words, thoughts, and feelings.
Example: Old thinking: I don’t want to hang around with the same group of people they cause me to get into trouble. New thinking: I DO WANT a new group of friends who support each other and help each other succeed.
Old thinking: I do not want a man/woman who cheats, lies, etc. New thinking: I DO WANT a man/woman who is faithful, loving, communicates, etc.
Everyone can change his or her life. Growing up we are surrounded by people who do what they know. They mean well, however, it keeps us stuck in the same routine with the same type of people. In order to move beyond your current growth level, find the group of people who are living the life you want.
“If you’re not growing, uproot yourself from your current friends and replant yourself with new friends where the soil is fertile.” Robert Overstreet
REACH out, BE receptive, and BE respectful:
REACH out:Find a mentor or mentors.Reaching out requires meeting people where they are, and being willing to meet them at least half way. Numerous people are willing to help you, as long as you are helping yourself and proving that you genuinely desire by putting forth the effort and hard work to grow.
Example: In order to learn basketball, you would not go to a hospital and have nurses mentor you about basketball. Go to the people who know and go with a positive, open attitude.
Be receptive: when your mentor(s) are teaching you, listen intently and follow thru. NO excuses!!! Some of their advice may work for you and some may not. Try it and adjust what works for you. It will all be valuable.
BE respectful: speak with kindness to everyone, and show appreciation to all people.
“Thank you” – two words small in size, powerful when spoken from the heart. When and to whom did you thank last?” Robert Overstreet
You CAN change; you DO deserve and are designed to be blessed.
Thru the power of your mind, you have the ability to make the best decisions to live a happy and successful life.
1. Lord: Protects, guides, and loves me unconditionally.
a. Have faith in the Lord: Know that what you ask may not be what you “need” or “need right now”. It is God’s timing. I pray for the strength, support, and guidance to endure and learn from my challenges (lessons placed before me) so that I will continue to grow into a better person. b. Have faith in yourself with the challenges / struggles placed before you; you, with faith in the lord will endure and come out stronger on the other side.
c. Continue to work hard where you are; be kind, positive, and respectful. d. “You can never have too much Faith.” Billionaire P.A.
2. Love: Love with an open heart and open mind and most importantly, unconditionally. I have met amazing and interesting people in this world.
3. Learn to:
a. ..become a better person. b. use the love in your open heart and mind to, always be willing to talk with anyone. “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” People may dress in a different style than you would choose for yourself; they are every bit as valuable as everyone else is. We learn by receiving from people, books, etc. of different information and backgrounds. Step outside of your comfort zone and learn new things.
Everyone has a story. You will be surprised what a person’s background is and their life experiences. You cannot tell by appearance. One of their life experiences may cause you to rethink one of your behaviors or reevaluate how you look at something in your life.
c. challenge your thought processes and knowledge.
a. Laugh heartily and often, Humor is relaxing and reduces stress. b. When you can laugh at yourself your ego no longer controls you..
5. Live: with passion and purpose. Live life to the fullest. Live with so much gratitude in your heart, it bursts thru your face in the form of a smile. Embrace and enjoy everything and everyone who comes across your path.
Best things in life are free. Worldly possessions are temporary happiness. Let your happiness come from within. When you no longer desire anything and appreciate what you have, you will feel peace.
When was the last time you were so quiet, you felt your heart beat?
a. Enjoy the simple things. b. Count your blessings. c. Spend time in the beauty of God’s creation.
i. Take a walk or take a drive thru the back roads. (No camping required) Drive far enough out of the city to a back woods location ii. When I take a road trip, I drive state highways and venture down country roads, which is a great way to see god’s country. Use your GPS to navigate to a state park, lake, campground, or marina. I have stumbled upon some secluded quiet spots overlooking a lake. iii. Put the technical devices away, breathe in slowly, exhale slowly, walk around, and / or sit down, and listen to your heart. Enjoy the beauty of God’s creation and feel the connection with the universe.
d. Enjoy all the good times life brings. Enjoy and embrace all the “ups and downs” of life; every experience in front of you is for the opportunity for your soul to grow. Embrace the downs because the downs make you stronger and provide you a greater appreciation for the up times.
Summary: Have faith in the Lord and yourself, Love everyone, Learn from everyone and every opportunity, Laugh at yourself and refrain from taking life too seriously and finally, Live in connection with God’s creation for us. Feel your heartbeat and know that we are all connected.