The times we are living are full of segregation and separatism. You may be thinking segregation in 2016….Get out of here; there isn’t segregation in 2016! However, if you walk into the majority of the high school cafeterias you will see this group over here, that group over there and them over there. As adults we also tend to only socialize with those that look, walk and talk like us. This is a natural animalistic tendency, which we probably behave this way for numerous of reasons. One reason is because it makes us comfortable. We feel at ease and safe in environments with those from the same cultural and social background as us. But does this create unity in the world? How does this make us better collectively as a society? Our goal should be to make the world a better place and to progress positively. How can we bridge this gap if we do not expand our circle and unify?
Segregation and separatism breeds a “themism” problem. “Themism” is a term we coined and basically means a person lacks understanding of another group and therefore makes inaccurate preconceived assumptions about others, which are usually negative, biased and not founded on facts. The result of “themism” is a person comes to have a fear of others. Consciously or subconsciously people come to think, “They don’t have my best interest,” “They cannot be trusted,” “They are against me,” or “They are a threat.” We can go on and on.
They, They, They: There is much power in the mind.
–> What if we adjust our thinking from they to us?
No matter the skin complexion, no matter the dialect, no matter the accent in one’s voice.
–> What if we viewed “them” as our own and treated “them” as our family?
No matter the skin complexion, no matter the dialect, no matter the accent in one’s voice.
–> What if we truly expanded our circle to gain understanding of others?
No matter the skin complexion, no matter the dialect, no matter the accent in one’s voice.
3 Simple INSPIRING Ways to take action on “Themism”: First, we must recognize and accept the tendency of “themism.” We must accept the fact that we havepreconceived notions of a person before we even get to know them. We do not extend the same love and consideration that we give to those that look and act as we do.
Second, we must intentionally adjust our behaviors and get uncomfortable. To unify the human race, we cannot only surround ourselves with those that have the same line of thinking as us. We must respectfully engage in dialogue with others (them) to understand their concerns and feelings.
Third, once communication takes place we can collectively come up with a unified course of action to bridge the gap. What this means is we will take an empathetic approach to unify towards a common goal.
Note – These three steps are best in a small setting where everyone can be heard and voice their viewpoint and perspective (ideally 6-8 people).
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Hugs & Much Love!
June 27, 2015
When I was at the court house on jury duty, the judge had given us a 10 min recess and while on break, I was standing talking with two black gentlemen. While talking with these two black gentlemen, I received a glare from a white man who obviously worked in the court house. He glared more than once. I ignored him and continued the conversation.
We had a black female jury foreman who was amazing. She is a true leader. The jury was a diverse group of people who listened to each other. We worked thru our differences.
I am grateful my parents raised me to speak, listen, and respect everyone. We can disagree with people, yet still show them respect. There are amazing people in this world.
By talking with different people we gain a better understanding of who they are, which provides us the opportunity to gain a better understanding of who we are. Everyone wants, need, and to deserve to feel they matter. Let us live our lives giving to others what we desire for ourselves.
In the words of Maya Angelou, “We are more alike than we are unalike.”
Our words, actions, and energy has a ripple effect on the lives of others. What we say and do plant seeds within others… As others plant seeds within us. Let us be aware of the type of seeds we are planting and do our best to plant seeds of goodness for their growth.
You are worthy, you are loved, you are beautiful. #Believe it, know it, live it.
We are all born of God, we are children, brothers and sisters. White people: We are not better than anyone else. We need to acknowledge the fact that media is a propaganda machine and law enforcement treat us better and the media shows us in a better light than our brothers and sisters who are black. White privilege does exist.
My family has been in America a few generations and I am not 100 percent certain of any slave owners in my family. I do stand up and apologize for the abuse, and disprespect that has gone on for far too long.
I am grateful and I appreciate all the hard physical labor my brothers and sisters have done.
It confuses me how anyone or any corporation would mistreat people who are working hard to bring in the dollars and make the that person or company what it is.
I agree with Tim Wise. I support all the positive steps black people are doing to continue their journey towards being treated with full equality and respect. I do what I can to help educate the minds of my fellow white people to open their eyes toward #whiteprivilege.
God bless each and every one of us. Love to all, may we continue to march towards full equality. Have a #blessed and #wealthy day.
March 14, 2015
Media vs. Real Life – Know the Difference
Why be concerned tv shows are not accurately portraying life? TV is entertainment.
We as adults let TV influence our lives. And on occasion, parents let tv raise their kids.
TV was initially created as a form of entertainment. I am not sure exactly when the lines became blurred and then crossed. I was raised to learn the difference between “reality” and “entertainment”. It was easier 30 years ago, because TV was not on 24/7, there were only a dozen channels, and they actually went off the air.
We must do our best to use television and all sources of entertainment/media as tools for learning and examples. We must not allow the media to decide the direction in which our life will travel. The decision is up to us.
As parents, and grown adults, we must pay close attention to what we are watching. Accept it as entertainment. And if we have children, become involved in our kids lives. Do our best to monitor and know what our kids are watching and have discussions with them about the shows.
There are a lot of subliminal messaging in shows thru out television, advertisements, and a all forms of media in the world.
Stay awake, pay attention: In today’s world, there is so much thrown at us and from all different directions, that we must make the conscious effort to decide what we let come in to our minds, what is good for us and what is not good for us, and thus, removing the garbage from our minds.
Enjoy the shows, enjoy your life, enjoy your kids, friend and family.
February 15, 2015
Life is about relationships
Want people in your life when you’re old and feeble? Treat people with kindness and respect when you’re young and strong.
Life is about relationships… everyone which enters our life has a purpose. We appreciate the good people more by having spent time with bad people.
Our actions and behavior draws people in our lives. Want better people in your life? Improve your behavior.
I’ve had interesting characters in my life. I’m thankful for having them crossed my path because I am a stronger and better person.
I am #grateful for all the wonderful people in my life now. As I elevated my attitude, the quality of people in my life elevated as well.
May you learn, grow, and be more healthy mentally, spiritually, and emotionally as the years pass.
Whether we are in a relationship or single, we have a responsibility to show the special people in our lives how much they mean to us by treating them with love, kindness, respect, and communicating our feelings.
When we wake up every day of the year, one question should be, “What is one thing I can do today to make the lives better of the people I love?”
Valentine’s Day is a day to actually say thank you to the special person or people in your life. To my friends and family who support me:
Always be open to the twists and turns along your journey.
While going thru college, many friends and family asked if I was going to follow in my family’s footsteps and become a teacher. I did not feel it my calling, instead I chose a field in computers and ended up in publications.
Ironically, I have been a mentor to many people and have done one on one training to many people. Guess I have ended up becoming a teacher.
As far as working with kids, my paths have crossed with The Billionaire P.A. who is empowering all people, focusing on the youth. God instilled within my heart to support this man. I proudly call Billionaire my friend. In so doing, I am a huge supporter and proud sponsor.
Life has an interesting way of working out. My family has many teachers and believe in educating kids. My path to teaching and helping kids took a different path.
Always be open to the twists and turns along your journey. Follow your heart, your passion, your dream. Believe strongly in yourself, maintain your faith in God, for he shall guide you and provide all you need.
December 30, 2014
The beginning of a new year is a good time to reflect on the ups and downs of the previous year. A time to evaluate where we were, how far we have come, and where we want to be.
Resolutions (goals to change and grow our life), can be made any time of year.
I believe we feel guilty for falling short the year before and not be as close to where we want to be. In so doing, when we make our resolutions, we inaccurately put the resolutions into effect. We try to cram everything in and exhaust ourselves mentally, physically, and emotionally.
The mighty Oak trees with deep roots take many years to grow.
Stop feeling the need to make up for lost time. Look at each resolution as a new change in your life. Only start one resolution at a time. Create a manageable plan, incorporate the resolution and once it has become established in your life successfully, then, introduce another resolution.
Don’t label yourself a failure: We are only a failure if we choose not to pick ourselves up. Having failed, means we are trying and moving forward. Use the moments when you fail as lessons of what not to do (what did not work). They are valuable tools of learning for growth.
You can, be the person you want to be. Through faith, consistency, and hard work. Surround yourself with people who build each other up.
December 20, 2014
A coworker constantly tells people why things won’t work out or why it is not possible. They always have excuses. Because of their own fears, they discourage others from living their truth and their passion. It is tiring to stand up to people who throw the arrow of negativity and excuses your way.
Not everyone will see or understand your vision and that is ok. As long as you do, God gave all of us a dream, what with do with it, is up to us.
Many people who have vision have chosen to follow their fears instead of their vision. To make themselves feel better about not accomplishing their dreams, they keep others from living theirs.
The same people, when you try to encourage them, are full of excuses. I have given many money making ideas and it has become obvious this person has dedicated their life to excuses. Ok, so my ideas are not their ideas. You can’t force the spark. I accept they choose to live on excuses. Live your life as an example for others.
If you are not ready or choose not to live your dream, then, don’t discourage others from living theirs. No one wants to or care about your excuses. It amazes me how people who have done nothing to attempt to make their passion a reality, are so knowledgeable to tell other people their life won’t work out!!
Makes me question this person’s faith in God. They are constantly in a state of worry. God has placed many opportunities before this person, yet, they would rather complain than walk the path. When your faith is strong, how can you still have worry on the same subject, when you have turned it over to God?
We must stand strong for ourselves and live what is right in our heart and soul. We must hold strong to our faith in ourselves and God. I do have concerns about “HOW” some things will work out. I choose not to dwell on the how. I have complete faith it “WILL” work out. God has always seen me thru.
Sir Robert Peel’s (5 February 1788 – 2 July 1850) Nine Principles of Policing:
Police Commissioner William J. Bratton lists the following guidelines on his blog. There is some doubt among scholars that Sir Robert Peel actually enunciated any of his nine principles himself — some researchers say they were formulated in 1829 by the two first commissioners of London’s Metropolitan Police Department.
1: The basic mission for which the police exist is to prevent crime and disorder.
2: The ability of the police to perform their duties is dependent upon the public approval of police actions.
3: Police must secure the willing co-operation of the public in voluntary observation of the law to be able to secure and maintain the respect of the public.
4: The degree of co-operation of the public that can be secured diminishes proportionately to the necessity of the use of physical force.
5: Police seek and preserve public favor not by catering to public opinion, but by constantly demonstrating absolute impartial service to the law.
6: Police use physical force to the extent necessary to secure observance of the law or to restore order only when the exercise of persuasion, advice, and warning is found to be insufficient.
7: Police, at all times, should maintain a relationship with the public that gives reality to the historic tradition that the police are the public and the public are the police; the police being only members of the public who are paid to give full-time attention to duties which are incumbent upon every citizen in the interests of community welfare and existence.
8: Police should always direct their action strictly towards their functions, and never appear to usurp the powers of the judiciary.
9: The test of police efficiency is the absence of crime and disorder, not the visible evidence of police action in dealing with it.
December 10, 2014
Respecting Powerful Black Men:
From the day President Obama was elected, I said there are a group of racist and bigoted republicans who hate the thought of a black man doing great things for our nation. Then, all the injustice the bigots have been selling to the citizens of America on the backs of blacks will come to light.
A total disgrace when you hate a man for the color of his skin so much that you will do everything in your power to make him look bad. And worse, block his every move which hurts and does not move the country forward.
Agree or disagree with all of the presidents policies and decisions, I credit the man for standing upright and marching forward with dignity and class. Using the law within his power to do what is in heart and soul to help our great nation move forward.
I also believe being a community leader that after he leaves office, Mr. Obama, as with the first lady, they will do great things to help the citizens of America.
November 22, 2014
We are not helping them by letting them stay in our house, living off of us. I acknowledge that life happens and there are times when hard working people need a helping hand. By letting moochers stay with us, we are only helping ourselves to feel better. Most moochers have the ability to take care of themselves. Why should they move on and work when they have everything they need without working?
Love: Let us love ourselves and them enough to give them the nudge / push they need to move forward with their life. If they need extra help (mental, addiction, etc.), and you have the ability to help (you can afford, or have the contacts), then do so. Kicking them out, is helping not hurting them. It is amazing how most moochers will land on their feet and take care of themselves.
Support: Know the difference (the fine line) between supporting a person in a manner that is preparing them to move forward and supporting them in a manner that is allowing them stay in one place.
Always be willing to help: Learn to read people and difference between those who are show gratitude and who are making an effort of moving forward and those who are looking for a hand out.
Helping doesn’t mean you always have to do something. You are helping by telling people no. Listen to your gut (instincts) and if it does not feel right to get involved with a person, then don’t.
Keep your heart open, mind open, and aware. Always be kind, polite, and respectful.
November 9, 2014
We can’t speak and gain knowledge at the same time.
The more we close our mouth and listen, the more we learn. There are amazing people with incredible knowledge from their personal experiences. Gaining knowledge doesn’t mean we have to agree with everything other people are saying. Learning to listen, provides us with the ability to gain a better understanding of our own beliefs. In addition, to gaining a respect for the path other people have walked.
November 8, 2014
Let them see you sweat:
When the opportunity arises, let kids see the hard work behind the scenes. They need to learn that success doesn’t “just happen”. Be a great example of faith, consistency, hard work.
Zo discusses topics others are afraid to even touch. Where we are in society did not just happen. I like how Zo brings in experts on all the different topics. In addition, how he brings in guests with different backgrounds with different viewpoints to instigate the discussion.
To have a better understanding of how to go forward, we must have a better understanding of where we have been and how it has all been laid out.
Agree or disagree with a given topic, Zo Williams “The Zo What? Morning Show” plants the seeds of thought for us to awaken our consciousness. Providing the opportunity for growth, empowerment, and elevating our lives.
October 26, 2014
Why is the statement, “Family are the ones who hurt us the most?” so true? I rephrase the question. “Why are the ones who share our DNA the ones who hurt us the most?”
Maybe because we “assume” people who share our DNA should have our back? Those who are not willing to stand up for us and with us, do not deserve, nor anywhere is it written we must keep them in our life.
Family, by true definition are those who DO stand up with us and for us. They are involved in our life and don’t make excuses.
More people from around the world are closer and support me stronger than the people who share my DNA.
For all my “family”, I am truly thankful.
October 18, 2014
We set the tone and course of our life by the type and value we place on the people in our lives.
When we choose the behavior, we choose the consequence. Likewise with relationships, we choose the types of behavior we allow in our life.
Instead of blaming and getting angry at the people in your life (the people you allowed in to your life) treating you poorly, look inside and asked why I allow them in? Why do I think I deserve to be treated this way. All relationships are designed for your growth.
Learn to love yourself, as God designed you.
Show gratitude for your great relationships. You are worthy, you DO deserve. There are people who will love for for all your flaws and bad choices and who will not judge you. These people are to be appreciated and hold onto them. When God sends one of these friends to you, say thank you.
October 14, 2014
The negative flow stops with us.
Oprah did something years ago that has stuck with me. On the rare occasion she took a cab and the cab driver was rude and obviously having a bad day. Instead of letting his negative energy carry on thru her, she reached out to him and showed that she cared about him. He confessed, and apologized for his behavior. She left him a larger tip than she normally would have.
We never know the extenuating circumstance for another person’s behavior. We are too quick to take it personal, when most often it has nothing to do with us; we are the next person they are in contact with. At that moment, we have the opportunity to stop the negative flow and change the course to positive.
“Combo guard New Williams, a 4-star talent from Santa Monica (Ca.), committed to the Tigers on Sunday during his official visit. He also held offers from, among others, Arizona State, Louisville, Oregon, San Diego State and UNLV.
Williams told the Tigers on Saturday night he was headed to the Plains. It became public Sunday morning.” >>> Continue Reading <<<
August 24, 2014
“Emotions are necessary for learning how to appreciate life and for growth. There is an opposite to every emotion. All feelings are normal and okay. It’s how we react to our emotions that can lead to destruction. Feel it, learn to control your feelings and grow. Use your emotions as fertilizer in the soil of life.” Robert Overstreet
August 27, 2014
If a friend/loved starts talking suicide, have you thought how you would react? Do not leave them alone regardless of what they say. Be willing to make the appointment with a counselor and go with them to make sure they make it to their appointment. #suicideawareness
August 19, 2014
Police put the pot on the stove, turn up the heat to boil and when the pot boils over they blame the pot. Time to replace the cooks. This is exactly what the police want to happen to make people they hate look bad. My suggestion is to know your police department and come together as a community to change what is necessary to put people in charge who actually and genuinely protect you and have your back not shoot you in the back (or front as the cop did #MichaelBrown in #Ferguson)
August 21, 2014
“Love thy neighbor as you love yourself. If you don’t love your neighbor, look within and find the love for yourself that you are longing. Forgive and let go those who have hurt you. The hate you spew forth to others represents the hate and anger you have inside. Learn to love yourself and you will see the beauty in others and will be able to love others as God designed you to be and do.” Robert Overstreet
July 26, 2014
The Road Best Traveled.
You are where you are because of all the places you have been. Are you happy with where you are? Are you on the right road for you? Every moment is the right time to make a turn and go another direction.
Think about where you want to be tomorrow and beyond. Is what you are doing today going to take you where you want to go? If not, make the turn, if yes, keep on traveling.
We all make turns in our life by mistake (bad choices). Instead of getting angry with yourself, forgive yourself and turn around. Bad choice does not make you a bad person.